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Savvy June 2017

Commemorating deceased loved ones

Nicole, on March 28, 2017 at 4:47 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

My grandmother just recently passed away, we were very close and I wanted to commemorate her at our wedding somehow. We've had other grandparents (on both sides of mine and FH's family) that have passed on in the past years and feel if I commemorate my grandmother, then we should do the same with our other grandparents. I've seen some people place an empty chair with the person's picture or flowers during the ceremony, but honestly I think that's going to make me too emotional. I thought about including a moment of silence type of thing prior to the start of the ceremony. Anyone have any other ideas or done something commemorative? At the same time I don't want it to be too much of a "memorial".

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Latest activity by Audrey, on March 29, 2017 at 2:08 AM
  • Beverley
    Just Said Yes November 2018
    Beverley ·
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    I'm very sorry to hear that! I lost my father 10 years ago and I have been looking on Pinterest for some ideas. I have come across this candle as well as having a table with pictures of loved ones who have passed as you walk into the ceremony.


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  • Beverley
    Just Said Yes November 2018
    Beverley ·
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    Here is the table with photos picture!


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  • Andrea
    Devoted September 2017
    Andrea ·
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    Do you have something of hers? Put it in your bouquet.

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  • Andrea
    Devoted September 2017
    Andrea ·
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    Playing her favorite song and dancing with someone special to it at the reception?

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    I'm so sorry for your loss Nicole.

    Framed photos, a moment of silence, wearing some of their jewelry - there are a lot of ways to honor your loved one!

    12 Unique Ways to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed Away

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  • MrsMet
    Super July 2017
    MrsMet ·
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    I plan to put family photos (including my grandparents' wedding photo) on out escort table. I have my grandmother's wedding gloves that I'm going to display with the picture. I'm also planning to have bouquet charms with pictures of my grandparents. I wanted to have pieces of them there, but no overt memorial. My grandmother also passed away recently so I would be too emotional if I had anything that was blatantly in memoriam.

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  • Amanda
    Master January 2017
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. That must be difficult to be planning such a happy occasion while going through such heartbreak. DH and I both lost our grandmothers within a few months of each other in 2014 and as soon as we got engaged we knew we wanted to honor them in some way at the wedding. We decided to display their photos at the reception (people loved this) and also to include their names and a prayer at the end of our program. I also chose to wear my grandmother's ring on my right hand and wrap her rosary around my bouquet. At my friends wedding, I made her a little bouquet charm with her a photo of her niece (who had passed away) and she really liked that. Sending you hugs and prayers, OP.


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  • NextMrsD
    Super November 2016
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    I included this poem on the back of our program and included the name of our fathers and close family members who had died recently (4 people total). I showed it to my mom before our wedding day and it made her tear up. I also got a thank you from my cousins husband for remembering her, he was really touched.


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  • Lucinda
    Dedicated April 2017
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    I shared this on a couple other threads but along with the chair with pictures of FH mom and one with pictures of my dad, I'm going to wrap my bouquet in 1 of my dad's ties.

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  • Meridith
    Expert April 2017
    Meridith ·
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    We are having our officient say something mentioning and honoring those who can't be there and list our family members who passed away.

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  • M
    Beginner August 2017
    MaryKathryn ·
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    I'm having a separate table set up I'm going to put a lantern on their with a lit candle and I'm going to put a picture frame of each family member that died with a wood sign that says "we know you would be here today if Heaven weren't so far away"

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  • A
    Savvy May 2017
    Audrey ·
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    Do you have her wedding dress? What if you put it on a dress form and used it as sort of a decoration? I don't know if that will fit with your decor or not but just an idea! You could also display her jewelry, accessories, or photos of her on her wedding day. I wish I had my grandmothers dress to do this with. She passed away when I was young and I so wish she was still here. So sorry for your loss.

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  • Chelsea
    Super June 2017
    Chelsea ·
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    I don't know how you could adapt this for multiple loved ones, but I am pinning a beauty portrait locket photo of my grandmother when she was 18 to my bouquet to keep her close.

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    Savvy May 2017
    Audrey ·
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    I just thought of this too from reading some comments. On the base of my bouquet I'm going to use my grandfather's bible he carried with him in the war. My grandmother used it and so did my mom and my aunt. If you have something like that of hers see if you can use it in your bouquet.

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