Comfort in canceling 10/10/20

I’m glad you were able to get a new date. I hope you can still do something celebrate your original date.

View Quoted Comment Yes! We’ll certainly acknowledge the original date.

These photos are so scary! Good idea to postpone.

View Quoted Comment So crazy! Just a total detachment from reality.

I completely agree. I’ve been trying to postpone my August wedding. Unfortunately, with my states governor loosening restrictions and not mandating the 10 person limit my venue is refusing to let us postpone. I don’t feel comfortable having a wedding, but unfortunately some venues are not being accommodating so my wedding is going to happen.

View Quoted Comment Ugh. That sucks! I’m really sorry to hear that. So is that what your contract about canceling? Usually there’s a window by which you can cancel.

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At this point we would owe them 75% of what they would have made if we cancel on them. For us 75% is $30,000. We can't afford to pay them that and not have a wedding.

Girl I can't with you and the chuck up the deuce comment lol. Honestly you need to do what is best. I am honestly glad we are eloping and not even opening up to minimal family members because who knows what is going to happen even in October or November so I applaud you for thinking of the safety of you two and your guests and as long as you feel at peace that is what matters. Those pics you sent remind me of Florida where I live. I still won't go to beaches, I wear a mask at the gym (even if people think I am crazy) and I go to restaurants that instill social distancing measures. Not worth risking your health. I am sorry and I do hope you still remain positive and yes let's hope 2021 is a much better year.

View Quoted Comment Ok! Yes, that’s what I thought. That same reason is why we had the “cancel conversation”. We needed to weigh everything out and make a solid decision to continue or cancel by 90 days or owe 50%. Unfortunately we’ll lose the ceremony deposit because it was separate and non-refundable and non-transferable. But it was only $250.


Covid sucks. But, the good thing is that you’re wedding is at the end of August. So there’s still time for comfort to increase a little more.

View Quoted Comment Haaaa! Thanks girl! But, yep... I feel like I’m literally walking away from 2020 like I’m dumping a bad boyfriend, leaving it behind me and moving on. ✌🏽 😆


I actually thought that I’d feel super terrible about it. But the sadness didn’t last long. And eloping is turning out to be the very best idea. If covid is still causing trouble next Fall, we’re eloping for sure.
And I understand about the beaches, we’re in San Diego and the same thing is happening here too. No thank you!
But I’m staying positive and one of the best parts is that I have nothing to worry about planning for over a year, besides invitations and buying a few small items closer to the new date. I’ve had my dress since May 2019 and love it. But now, I’m actually considering getting a second dress for the reception as a postponement gift. I’m not dead set on it. So we’ll see!

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I think a positive mindset is what we all need. That is what I have been doing during this whole time because things could be much, much worse. Well nothing wrong with two dresses especially if you catch a good deal lol. Dress shopping is super tempting lol. After exchanging my dress for my current one I have decided to avoid all dress viewing so I do not start to question that one which I am in love with lol.

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Yeah, positive is all we can be during this. I felt that way with the first date and still with the new date. If ultimately we have to elope, then that’s what it will be (definitely not postponing again)

The 2nd dress idea is truly just an idea at this point. My 1st dress is perfect for me and I never looked for another. But simply because of postponing, I thought, “Well, the first dress was my 10/10/20 dress. So for fun, I should get a 10/2/21 postponement dress for the reception.” 😉 But, then again, I will have waited so long to wear the first one that maybe I should wear it all night. I’ve definitely got enough time to think about it now. Haa!

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Nah if you love that dress do it. My second dress I think made me realize the bride I wanted to be and I questioned the first one almost since picking it up and this one I do not and I love seeing ig brides with a similar style. It's bridal and classic. Girl I feel you....do not wait longer. I am mad I discovered Marry me in Spain and they do elopements. Now seeing the pics I am mad my fh is lame and wants to stay local buwhahaha.