Combined Wedding/Baby Shower?

I don't know if tacky is the word I would use, but I think it would be pretty hard for a baby shower not to overshadow a bridal shower. I'd be a little concerned about making the new SIL feel like a second thought as a party "add-on."

If the two girls are friends and know each other, I think you could get away with it. If SIL and sister don't know each other well, I certainly wouldn't throw a double party for them.

They should get separate parties. These are two very big events in their lives and they should be treated as such. Maybe do one on a Saturday and one on a Sunday? Then family can just stay for the whole weekend

Agree with AMW and Ashley. One shower might be overlooked and emotions could take over. Have them on the same weekend, just on different days. No ones feelings will be hurt and the cake wont say 'congratulations baby bride'

I agree they should be separate parties. Both are exciting times and they should be able to celebrate separately. One may over shadow the other leaving someone feeling hurt.

I wouldn't, two very different occasions

I agree with above. They should be able to each have their own event but I understand not wanting people to travel twice. I think you could either do one shower on sat and one on Sunday like above stated. Or if you really want it to be the same day you could maybe do the baby shower in the morning afternoon and then transition to the bridal shower that evening. that way it could be one occasion but each women would get their own party.

I like Ashley's idea!

Yeah I would do same weekend different days.

Also "my sister just got married 4 months ago and is almost 4 months pregnant" - is there some kind of hard feelings or judgement going on there? Not sure why that detail was necessary.

I agree with Ashley, why not do them on the same weekend but one on Saturday and the other on Sunday? That would make the most sense.

Both of these ladies should get their own day, I personally would not want to make someone share a shower with another person

I don't know that I like the idea of a combined shower, even if it would be more convenient. To me, it says, "Let's do it all at once so we can get it over with." It kind of waters down how momentous each occasion is. A baby shower is totally different from a bridal shower and honestly, it's a bit unfair to both of these women to make them share a shower date.

This is kind of happening to me right now... and it sucks. I don't expect a big shower but when it was offered I got really excited. That was quickly followed up by "we can have yours and Sierra's (Cousin who is getting married a few months before) at the same time to make it easy on everyone. And your sister in law (who is due the week of my wedding with twins) can have her baby shower too since she'll be in town for the bridal shower."

It really does make me feel like our showers are more of an inconvenience to people and they are trying to find a way around them. If that's the case I'd rather just not have one at all. Each lady should get their own special day or at least there own special block of time within the same day.

I agree that each girl deserves her own, special shower. Along similar lines, I have a friend that eloped and kept it secret from her family and friends (long story). They found out they were expecting exactly a month later. Two months into their marriage, after some long talks with their families, they announced their marriage and pregnancy to friends. It would have been so easy to throw then a combined wedding and baby shower, but that's not what we chose to do. After their announcenent her family threw them a small, family only reception. As friends, we threw them a small wedding shower/celebration lunch. Towards the end of their pregnancy, her family threw her a baby shower in her hometown, and her friends threw her a baby shower. It was better this way.

I wouldn't. Why can't the family be invited to the friend shower? These are two separate occasions and should be treated as that to avoid over shadowing or awkwardness.

I'm not fond of attending showers-- either as guest or honoree-- so I think it's a FANTASTIC idea, but I seem to be in the minority.

Separate parties, they deserve there own events. Even if its convenient there are other ways. 1. the baby shower could be early in the afternoon or a brunch (some where between 11am-2pm). The wedding shower could be later at 5 or 6pm.

No. Each bride or expecting mom should have her own shower. Doing two showers on the same weekend is a work-able solution.

I agree with all of these statements! I too feel like they should be separate occasions, however my older aunts do not agree and think it is super rude to ask the family to come to 2 showers, only weeks apart when everyone lives in different areas of the state. The comment about my sister getting married 4 months ago and being 4 months pregnant is not really relevant except for the fact that we just gave her a super elaborate bridal shower 5 months ago and she feels bad that another shower needs to be thrown. My sister and future sister in law are friends and it was actually my sisters idea to combine them. I think we are going to do a combined family only shower for the both of them and not advertising the "shower" part, but more of a celebration of our family growing at a brunch type setting. Then my sisters friends are going to give her a separate shower that evening, and my sister in laws friends are going to do the same for her when she travels back home. I dont love the idea of this, but its not worth arguing with the family about. I just wanted to get others outside opinions.

Can't agree more with other PP's. These are two completely separate life events and the showers should be treated as such, separate.

Isn't 4 months also really early to throw a baby shower? Most of the ones I've attended are like 7-8 months? In which case why hold them together at all? Or is there a reason it's at 4 months?

Either way both girls should get their own celebration, nobody want ot be an afterthought, and welcoming someone into the family as an afterthought (FSIL) just isn't good.

View Quoted Comment Me too—I’m with Zoe! However, my dilemma is oldest daughter’s baby due the end of May, daughter #2 gets married end of June but flying out for a surprise baby shower for her sister mid-May.
All bride’s friends live hundreds if not thousands of miles away. Only one or two friends still around for a bridal shower while she’s in town for baby shower.
The bridal shower would be way eclipsed by baby shower. So what to do?????