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Tiffany
Dedicated July 2019

Combination of traditional vows and personal vows for wedding ceremony

Tiffany, on June 3, 2019 at 1:10 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 15
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So when people talk about wedding vows, it's usually either the traditional vows or personally written vows. Has anyone ever done a combination of both or is planning to do a combination of both? My FH and I are both Christians so we want to do the traditional vows but we also want to write out own (short and sweet) vows. Does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions on how we could achieve this so that everything flows nicely and isn't repetitive??

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Latest activity by Tiffany, on June 3, 2019 at 5:44 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    We're kind of doing both. I wanted to write our own vows, but my FW wasn't super comfortable writing them and reading them in front of everyone. We'll do the traditional "repeat after me" vows during the ceremony then read our personal vows in private with just our photographer and videographer after.

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  • Tiffany
    Dedicated July 2019
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    Awww! I love that idea. That makes it so much more personal and meaningful! I love the idea! Congratulations and all the best on your wedding day! Smiley smile

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  • SummerBrideInAutumn
    VIP October 2019
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    We are kind of doing both. We are doing “untraditional” repeat-after-me vows. Each of us will repeat a different set of vows but they’ll have a traditional feel. I also wanted the opportunity for us to say a few quick words to each other without the pressure of having to write a full set of vows. Therefore, we are each writing 4-5 sentences to read to each other right before we do the repeat-after-me portion. It’ll just be a sweet “This is how I knew you were the one and why I’m so excited to be marrying you” summary.
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  • Tiffany
    Dedicated July 2019
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    Oh, neat! This is a good idea to kind of do really short vows before the repeat after me part. We are also wanting to keep it very short so we'll probably have it be just 4-5 sentences too. Thanks for the suggestion and all the best on your wedding day! Smiley smile

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  • Michelle
    Super August 2019
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    We decided to completely write our own vows. The only thing "traditional" we're doing is the ring exchange part. I love to write poetry and things like that so it was very important to me to say what I felt in my heart and not what everyone else says to each other.

    Perhaps you can look at the traditional vows and incorporate them into your personally written ones. That way it's partly you and partly your religion being represented.
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  • Tiffany
    Dedicated July 2019
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    I really really love that idea of blending the traditional vows into our personally written vows!!! Thank you so much for your suggestion! Smiley smile
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  • Michelle
    Super August 2019
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    You're welcome! I was searching for ideas to write mine a while back and saw a bunch that were along those lines and I thought it was a cool idea.
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  • Tiffany
    Dedicated July 2019
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    Definitely! I was running through it in my mind just now and it even sounds poetic! I LOVE it! Thanks again and all the best on your big day!
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  • Steph
    Dedicated June 2019
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    We are doing both and this is how I have it written out


    Officiant: Do you Tyler, take Stephanie as your lawfully wedded wife? Do you promise to love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, to be faithful to her as long as you both shall live?

    Tyler - “I do”

    Officiant: Do you Stephanie, take Tyler as your lawfully wedded husband? Do you promise to love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, to be faithful to him as long as you both shall live?

    Stephanie: "I do."

    Stephanie and Tyler having heard that it is your intention to be married to each other, I now ask you to declare your marriage vows.

    *Tyler Reads Vows*

    *Stephanie reads Vows*


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  • Michelle
    Super August 2019
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    You too! ♥️
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  • Tiffany
    Dedicated July 2019
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    This was my initial idea! Sounds like a good method too. Smiley smile thanks for suggestion! All the best!
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I'm planning on having a combo of traditional and personal! I recently attended a wedding where a couple had both Christian and personal vows. The two worked beautifully together!

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  • Tiffany
    Dedicated July 2019
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    That's awesome! Thanks so much for the suggestion! Smiley smile all the best!
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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
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    We plan on doing both- personal vows before the rings and traditional ones during.

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  • Tiffany
    Dedicated July 2019
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    That's a neat plan to do the traditional vows during the exchange of rings! All the best!
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