College age kids need a separate invite?

We sent separate invitations to the adults that happen to still live with their parents.

It was only an extra 2 invitations for us so no biggie!

It wouldn't be major for us, just five extra invites but for that one household that is going to get three... I'm just wondering if it'll be overkill.

I would say do what you suggested above. Sending multiple invites to one house seems silly but I'm not sure what the "proper etiquette" is.

For us it was only 5 extra invites (3 of which are in law/med school so they are well into their 20's) so i sent them to the adults.

I thought I was up on all the etiquette 'in's and outs'. Oops. Well, I honestly don't think most people will know this when they don't even get RSVPs in the first place. One invite per household here - all names were written out on the invite: Mr. and Mrs. Smith - (under parents' names) Joe, Sam, Karen.

Its the proper etiquette.. but if I'm being 100% honest we didnt do it for FH's cousins. They live in the dorms and it would have probably been lost or ignored, plus by our wedding date they're home for the summer so we just let their parents handle it.

Oh lord, let's not even talk about RSVPs. My family is Cuban... we don't RSVP for anything, EVER! It's just not part of the culture, so I can just anticipate that being an issue.

Luckily, I'm keeping the guest list small and I'm making each family member responsible for their guest (i.e.: my mom is going to have to call 15 of those people she just "HAD TO" invite.)

We sent out STD to their dorm and invite to their house. I also warned them in advance so they didn't think they were uninvited!

@Nessa- I feel you and have so much fear lol. My family is half Cuban and half Puerto Rican! *meep!*

@OP- I also see how it can be a bit ridiculous... When I was away at college, people sent the invites to my parent's address, all one invite, and I was not offended. I understood because of all the reasons listed above (especially being at a dorm omg, so much lost paper and so much of it in my dog's mouth lol), so I think that while etiquette would be to send everyone a separate invite, I don't think that particular household would take offense to just one. Seems like a waste to me, as both the college student and the bride.

@FututeMrsWelch, I think I'll just bunch them all in the same invite. Now I think about it, when I was living with my parents (until I was 22) FH and I would mostly be included in their invites and they'd get "4 reserved in your honor." Type of invite.

Lol I'm also the OP! Oh Hispanic families are so fun to guest list for! -_-

We are purposely having a DW so we can get away with a smaller guest list and even then we're at 130 people. I know a good bunch won't come because it's three states away but still... It's just hard because I know no one will understand when they hear the term "and intimate wedding."

LOL sorry Nessa! You can tell how totally with it I am right? Oh man, it took everything I had to bring it down from 175 (already being selective) to 112 and now we have MORE family and we're somehow back up to 119?? Then of course there are the MVPs of the VIPs that not inviting will bring "dishonor on your whole family" (as said best by Mushu) lol. I'm sooooo not looking forward to the RSVP nightmare I know is to come...

Hahahahahahah that "dishonor" made me laugh. My mom keeps saying "she's been my friend my whole life, she saw you grow up, we HAVE TO invite her."

At first I was all "no pay, no say" but then she said she'd take care of my dress and accessories for the day and I thought, okay then... "Some pay, some say" but now I'm looking at the guest list and she's racked it up to 17!! 17 of those "we have to invite."

Oh boy!!! 175 to 112 is a big cut. Good for you! I can only imagine the struggle. We've budget for 60 and have 130 on the guest list. Of which 45 I'm almost certain are not going (finances, health issues, etc.) but that still leaves me at 85.... #lordhelpme

My DH 3 cousins are all in there 20s and live at home. We sent one invite to the whole house.The envelope was addressed to "the smith family". The invite listed fathers, mothers, and each of the boys names on it. We knew the boys were all single to didn't put and plus ones on it. DH husband had already sussed this one out by asking one of the boys. Closer to the time he checked with them again just to make sure none of them had met someone that they might like to bring.

@Nessa And futuremrswelch I'm Cuban too and the OMG I Had To invite so and so list is ridiculous... And RSVP ha ha that will be super fun task I'm sure of it. ETA : OP my cousin lives at her moms house with her 2 children I actually personally asked her about the invite and she basically looked at me like wtf is wrong with me. She said that's a waste of paper if we all live in the same place.

If college student will be giving a separate gift, it's a separate invite. If it is likely the parents will purchase the gift and sign all the names, I would recommend sending a single invitation to The [insert last name here] Family.

Yeah, I had to send three separate invites to one house, annoying but really not that big of a deal in the long run!

I know etiquette says 3 invites, but honestly, I don't think 1 will be an issue. If you're doing inner envelopes you could always address that part as "mom dad, A and guest, B and guest."

I know I'll be inviting one set of cousins where the oldest 2 are over 18. The oldest will be invited separately with his gf (who honestly will probably be his fiancé by the wedding). The other over 18 one will be included with his family and no guest- per his mother, my aunt's, request. If he gets into a serious relationship before invites go out, then I might ask my aunt to reconsider for him, but they'll be traveling to ATL from MD so I understand her not wanting to include some random guest.

Sounds like PP's agree that it's more polite to invite adults separately, and that makes sense. But tbh, if I got a separate invite and I was living at my parent's house, I might think it was a bit silly. The family is probably coming as 1 group, right?

I invited adults separately because I didn't really know how to word the invite so I thought it was the easy way out of it.

I'm looking at the invites as in couple/group or individuals.

Like "would someone attend on their own?"

So even if they live in the same household, if I see them as individuals and not lumped into a family, they will get an individual invite.