Collecting addresses amidst Covid-19

If you’re worried about people assuming they’re invited, because you asked for their address. I think the holiday season would be the perfect opportunity. You can ask for their address and send out cards.

I think you can ask people anytime for their addresses, additionally google their names and cities and you may find their addresses online without having to ask them at all.

Our wedding is September this year. We called all the older guest and texted the younger guest to collect their address . As the date got closer and we had to change the numbers, we marked off people that we weren't that close too first, then we started calling the other people to confirm or uncorfirm if they were still coming. 98% of the older people said they weren't coming. That help drop our numbers alot. Some people that received a Save the Date did not get an invitation. I hope this helped

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It's not so much that I am worried about people assuming they are invited. We know the specific 80 we want to invite. However, with COVID around there's always a chance we have to cut the guest list. So I guess I want to know how to go about collecting addresses but also being like "we want you there but there's a chance we may have to cut the list." I know the moment you ask for an address guests know they're invited and I just don't want any hurt feelings if down the line they have to be cut. So I was wondering if there were any strategic ways everyone was going about collecting guests info for their wedding without ruffling any feathers. But I like the idea of asking around the holiday's. It does allow us more time to see how things change or progress with the virus.

Thanks!

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Hey thanks for this tip! I'll definitely try it out. I like that it allows me to collect discretely.

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Hey this does help! Thanks for sharing!

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I did that with our holiday cards last year and it worked great.

If you're planning to invite everyone digitally as a backup plan if you can't invite them all physically, I think you're okay just asking for addresses outright. I'm assuming you'd still send a physical card saying, "I wish you could be there with us, but since it's not safe to gather, here's a Zoom meeting ID," or a more thoughtful version of that. In that case, you'd still need their addresses, just not for the reason they might expect.

Are you set on sending physical save the dates? I know some people think email save the dates are tacky, but it saved us money and to be honest, I don't think anyone really cared that we didn't send a physical one. If you are open to it - I did an email save the date through paperless post and it collects physical addresses for you (it asks people for it in the email) - this will give you a little more time to see how COVID is impacting your wedding date. I had about 80 guests as well and it worked perfectly! If you are set on physical save the dates and it works with timing I say go with the holiday card idea or just ask people for their address now - odds are by the time you actually send something people will have forgotten you asked AND you don't have to tell them what you are asking for their address for! Good luck!