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Just Said Yes June 2017

Cold Feet Towards My Dress

Elizabeth, on May 9, 2017 at 1:36 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 22

I know. Many may want to punch me in the face for this. I've never posted on here before, but I have read a lot.

I don't really like my wedding dress anymore. At all. Trying to stay positive, just having such a hard time feeling beautiful in it. It was the least expensive and the easiest to go with, so I did. But here I am, 7 months later. Our wedding is in 34 days, and I'm not feelin' it. It would mean the world if you'd join me in prayer, or throw out some encouragement if you can!

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Latest activity by JDSquared, on May 11, 2017 at 12:12 PM
  • kirackle
    Super September 2017
    kirackle ·
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    No one here would ever want to punch you in the face for dress regret or for having doubts about the wedding in general. There are constantly posts from brides about changing their dress or yearning for a new one. Everyone is very supportive but often blunt about the wasted money. Talk to your alteration person for upgrading the sash/straps/neckline if you don't have time or money for a fully new one.

    However, your title is "cold feet," which traditionally means that you are having doubts about getting married. Do not go along with the wedding because the wheels are in motion. Sit back and reevaluate your relationship without the pressure of deposits and sunk costs.

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  • Anna
    Super November 2017
    Anna ·
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    Question...Are you unsure of the dress or getting married?

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  • Baletica
    Master June 2017
    Baletica ·
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    I'm sending good vibes your way, OP! I don't know your situation but if you could resell the dress, David's Bridal has some really nice ones on sale for $99.

    Also, if you wanna post a pic here of your dress we could give some encouragement!

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  • G
    Savvy September 2017
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    My brother got married in a month. His, now wife, got everything done in less than that. If you truly do not like your dress, then go for something else. Off the rack, David's Bridal, etsy, have it altered with embellishments. You can do it! It is definitely worth it to feel beautiful for your wedding day. Warm thoughts and good luck! Also I agree with the above, sometimes you are your own critic. But it will definitely not hurt to look! You may find the one you love.

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  • Blanca
    Devoted July 2017
    Blanca ·
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    You're not alone, trust me, I changed my dress 3 times, and now I still question myself if its the "perfect " one I guess its all in my head. I have come to the conclusion that whats going to look absolutely stunning is your glow and happiness to marry the love of your life.

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  • Natalie
    VIP June 2017
    Natalie ·
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    You have time to pick another. If it was the least expensive then you don't have to worry so much about losing a lot of money. Do you have a pic of it? Will give a completely honest opinion.

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  • MrsSki
    Master April 2017
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    Is this about the dress or the marriage? Cold feet about getting married is serious and completely different than hating a dress.

    If it's just the dress, it's not that serious. I didn't pick my dress, my mom did (and paid for it). It was fine, everyone said I looked beautiful, it fit me well, but there were no teary, TV moments for me. We had been to a salon for HMU, but I got dressed in a Sunday school classroom. After the ceremony, I realized that I hadn't even looked at myself in the mirror with everything on! It was unintentional, but really what I looked like (and the dress) didn't matter. All that mattered was becoming DH's wife.

    It's normal to be nervous and a bit scared for your wedding day. Getting married is life-changing! A little bit of nerves are okay. If you're having true doubts though, that's a different issue. Do you love them? Do you understand and support each other? Read the vows you are going to say on your wedding day. If you aren't 100% certain that you can promise those things and keep those promises, you need to have a serious talk with your fiance(e).

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  • Powers2
    Master April 2018
    Powers2 ·
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    Op, it's just a dress.

    If you really hate it, start shopping. See what you can get either off the rack or see if you can score a sample.

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  • Maybride
    Expert May 2017
    Maybride ·
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    Do you have a picture? Could a sash or veil help you like it better?

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  • N
    Master December 2016
    Nancy ·
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    It's late to change your dress. It will have to be something off the rack.

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  • Ashley
    VIP March 2018
    Ashley ·
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    Why would we want to punch you in the face over that?

    Also, are you having dress regret or cold feet about the wedding? Your title is a title misleading.

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  • WWModTeam
    WeddingWire Administrator December 2016
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    Hi Elizabeth, it would be great if you could set an avatar photo. You’ll get more replies on your threads and it’ll help the community recognize you when you post. This can be done from the desktop version of the site by going to “My Settings”, or you can email a picture to community@weddingwire.com and someone will set it for you.

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  • Chelsealeigh218
    Super October 2018
    Chelsealeigh218 ·
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    Cold feet about the dress, or the wedding? That seems to be the real question at hand!

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  • DC
    Super May 2018
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    Um yeah so you have cold feet because you don't like your dress???? I would hope not

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    Just Said Yes June 2017
    Elizabeth ·
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    BOY I am so so sorry! No I have zero cold feet towards my fiancé! I meant that completely in regards to my doubt about the dress. Glad you all called me out on that. I apologize for misleading. I REALLY appreciate all of your comments and support. I will post picture of old dress. Also, check this out.

    So, does anyone have a mom who knows everything? I mean, literally has known what you were thinking when you were thinking it since you were 2 years old. This used to drive me crazy when I was younger (and irresponsible) because she always knew when I didn't do the right thing. Now that she is my best friend, I'm thankful for this quality of hers, as I was nervous about being honest with her in this instance. Yesterday was supposed to be my first alterations appointment for my wedding dress. Alteration appointments require you to bring all of the undergarments that you plan to wear on your wedding day including Bra slip, Spanx etc. So in a panic, to save money we ordered a few slips off of Amazon. They were going to arrive the same day as the appointment, but much earlier in the day. Well of course I get an email notification saying that my bra and slips delivery will be delayed, until 8 PM. Davids Bridal is not open until 8 PM. So I called the sweet alterations lady and said I was so sorry can we please reschedule the appointment so that I can be fully prepared when I come. So, we reschedule the appointment. Then as I'm pulling up to my house, the UPS man is dropping off my package. And hour and a half before the appointment. I call her back, she understands and we continue with the appointment. I decided that for this appointment I wanted to do my make up a little bit and try to feel a bit prettier, since I was already struggling to in the dress. As I'm on my way, my psychic mother calls me and asks me one simple question. "Is this the dress you really want?" I have no idea why she would ask me that seven months after it was bought on the day of my appointment as I'm on my way, but she did. My sister was in the car and she took the phone from my hand and revealed my feelings to my mom because she knew I was afraid to. Following up with my sisters comments I tried to apologize to my mom and tell her I really wanted to try to make it work. But my mom said if I'm not a hunter percent sure and if I'm not in love then I need to call the poor lady who I've already rescheduled on, and expressed my feelings to her and see what advice she had. Being the sweetest woman ever, she told me that everything was going to be okay. I could bring the dress in and we could exchange it for another if I find something else that I like. The manager also spoke to me on the phone and said that it was no problem and they wanted to help me in anyway that they could. This is amazing!? So I get there, feeling like a dummy, I begin to look around and I see this dress on a manikin. Along with several others, they pull that dress into the dressing room, and it is the first dress I try on. The dress was a size 4, and brand-new to the store. And, it was only $50 more than my last dress so we only had to pay that difference. I'm not sure if anybody else has had a stressful wedding dress story between everyone reminding you that "You must be IN LOVE with it" or "It has to be the perfect dress" plus finances, plus worrying about if your fiancé will think you look beautiful. Well honestly, I'm not an in love kind of person with many material things (only in crazy love with my fiancé), so I didn't feel such an intense attachment to this dress. But immediately when I put it on I felt like myself. Which the other dress, was beautiful and celebrity like, but it didn't make me feel like myself. And I realize now that that could possibly be why I had so many reservations. All in all, God reminded me to be patient yesterday, to love myself, and to be honest about the way that I feel. Because all of those things are important. I didn't even get to see all of your comments until the next morning, but I'm very thankful for them and they affirm to me that everything is going to be ok! Thank you sincererly!

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    Just Said Yes June 2017
    Elizabeth ·
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    Tried to post a picture and it didn't work Smiley sad

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  • Harts&Bows
    VIP September 2017
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    Hugs. I second the David's Bridal sales ... Maybe consider embellishments or tailoring to help?

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  • JuJuBee
    Super May 2017
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    *mannequin .. sorry that was really annoying me.

    So happy you found something you feel truly yourself in!

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  • Jo
    WeddingWire Administrator May 2015
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    I'm so glad you found something you love and everything worked out! If you want help attaching the pictures (I'm very curious to see them!) you can email them to me at community@weddingwire.com and I can add them for you. Otherwise, try resizing the pictures to be smaller, that's usually why pictures don't attach.

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  • Melissa
    Dedicated June 2017
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    It's ok your not the only one. I second guessed mine so I bought another. Wearing one for the ceremony and one for the reception. I have anxiety lol

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