Cold feet / Change of plans , or cancellation?

Background story ; I have been with my fiancée for over 9 years now . We’re still fairly young , as we are high school sweethearts . We got engaged this past February , and originally planned a wedding for August . Money got tight , and we moved it to October . Then our venue started adding fees for outside vendors ( that they didn’t offer themselves ), so we switched venues . Now we’re postponing until February of next year . Putting us at a year time frame of planning / paying . The discussion of our ceremony came up , and I know he’s shy / very private , he would rather just go to the courthouse . I do think he’s getting cold feet , the closer we get , or moreover , isn’t ready to have the attention on us entirely for that day . After all this planning , id rather elope , or have an intimate ceremony for just us , and maybe plan a wedding evening dinner / party at home ( we own an acre). Should I stick to the big venue , and extravagant costs , or keep it more comfortable and intimate for the both of us .