Co-workers assume they are invited to my wedding.....

I would just tell her that while you would love to be able to invite your coworkers, that you have a huge family which has to take priority on the guest list and that likely it will just be family and close friends.

I agree - just tell them that your wedding is going to be just your large family and closest friends - and that you wish everyone could join you - inviting the office is not going to be possible. They should understand.

"Due to space restrictions we are unable to invite everyone we would have liked to. Thanks for your excitement as it means so much to us. I am sure you will be celebrating with us in spirit!"

I had the same issue. I have expressed that my family is huge and his family is too and we are way over our budget and I will not be able to invite anyone outside the families with the exception of my maid of honor and her family. Literally it's the truth. They all seemed to understand but I still feel bad cause I do spend most of my time here at work with them.

1. You have a year to plan. You may change your mind between now and then

2. Stop talking about your wedding at work.

OKD is the bestest. I wish I would take the .09879 seconds to look at the date!

*blushing*

I told my coworkers i was only inviting family! I dont like them like that! Sorry not sorry..

@OriginalKD's advise was short, sweet and absolutely perfect.

As for your co-workers throwing you a bachelorette party, that is very weird. Do you mean a bridal shower? If so, not so weird although like OriginalKD said, you have a year so a lot could change. Let them throw you a work bridal shower if they insist. Try to do it at lunch rather than in the evening to keep it more work-related. A lot of offices throw office bridal showers or baby showers and there's nothing wrong with them... as long as the co-workers don't expect an invite out of it (most don't).

I would just tell them, I told everyone at my work that we are keeping it somewhat small because of our budget and they got the point

Well your coworker is kind of weird and rude to ask you about "their" invitation. I would never assume to receive any invitation to a coworker's function. Work relationships are totally different then actual friendships unless that transfer has been made and I still wouldn't expect anything simply because I know how much weddings cost. Since you seem to have these type of coworkers I would stop all wedding talk or say I have completely my guest list full of family and my childhood friends. They should take a hint from that.

Thank you all! All very good advice. I wish I hadn't mentioned that I got engaged. I only talk wedding when they ask. and if they ask about invitations, I'll say it's all family and close friends, no more room. Some of these girls I work with are a lot younger than me, so they're inexperienced with wedding costs and budgets.

I think if they ask you how wedding planning is, it's okay to leave it at, "it's going well, thank you for asking." They don't need to hear details if they're not invited.

I loveeee my coworker's and wish that I had space to invite them. I met them after we'd already been engaged for some time and unfortunately, there was no room on my guest list for them.

Find the one you think would understand the most and say something casual like, "I really wish I could invite work friends, but it's just not possible."