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Co-worker invited to wedding

Destanee, on February 14, 2022 at 9:47 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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Hello!

I just wanted a little help here. I work with a lot of different departments and have good relationships with a lot of my co-workers. There is one department in particular I am very close with but I am only very close with a few of them in total there is about 9 of them. But I'm really only close with about 4. I don't have the space in my guest list for all of them right now. And a couple of those I am not close to I wouldn't really want there anyways. Is it okay to just invite who I'm closer to? It's tough because despite it all I'm worried about hurt feelings. It's been kind of agonizing me. My fiancee invited most of his co-workers which I was okay with with the exception of only a couple of them. He tells me to invite who I want there and not worry about everyone's individual feelings but idk! Any thoughts?

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Latest activity by Tina, on February 15, 2022 at 9:22 PM

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Janet · on February 14, 2022 at 10:31 AM
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Do you hang out with your co-workers outside of work? If not, I (personally) would not invite any of them. People talk around the office, it happens. but when you are social friends outside of work, it's a little different.
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Lisa · on February 14, 2022 at 10:33 AM
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I agree with this. If you socialize with them outside of work, then I would invite them! If not, then I would leave them off the guest list.
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Destanee · on February 14, 2022 at 10:50 AM
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A few of them I am social with outside the office but not all of them. Theyre a good group very fun and invested. They're very giving outside of work to.
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Ashley · on February 14, 2022 at 11:42 AM
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Agree with others! But I would add that every co-worker you want to invite needs to be told to avoid the subject in the office.
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Keyra · on February 15, 2022 at 3:17 PM
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The 4 of your co-worker you like yes invite them. I also work in a department that interacts with a lot of other departments and I only invite 4 of the 15 I work with. Your co-workers know weddings are expensive and they also know you all aren't close so no reason for hurt feelings. None of my uninvited co-workers have said anything except they sent us well wishes.
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Michelle · on February 15, 2022 at 4:23 PM
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Who do you socialize with outside of working hours? Invite only those individuals with their significant others and mail the invitation to their home or hand deliver away from the office. Coworkers are never obligatory invites. They may choose to host a shower to celebrate your happiness but that does not require invites for all as a result.
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Tina · on February 15, 2022 at 9:22 PM
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We decided that if we have hung out with them outside of work those are the coworkers that we will invite to the wedding. We are having a small wedding so family and close friends come first unless a coworker is a close friend.
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