Just Said Yes October 2020

Co maid of honor

Jacqueline, on October 3, 2019 at 6:58 PM Posted in Planning 0 7
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I have recently made my younger sister my maid of honor (19). But I feel that I should have a second maid of honor because my sister is still underage and it’s a lot to put on her. Anyway, I am stuck on trying to figure out who my second maid of honor should be. My two choices come down to a friend or my cousin. My cousin and I are about two weeks apart in age and used to be incredibly close. As the years went on we have drifted apart though but when we are together it’s like nothing has changed. But she lives in California while I live in Colorado and all of the wedding planning is here too. My second choice is a newer friend. We’ve been friends for about two years but she lives in the same state as me. She has also been helping me with many wedding related tasks such as my engagement shoot as well as dress shopping. I guess my real question comes down to who should I pick ?!
Is it weird to pick a friend that I’ve only known for a few years ? Or should I stick with family ?


  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't think that's weird to pick a friend you've known for a few years.
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  • M
    Super September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
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    Pick your friend she lives there and can get around better and assist people with directions if need be.

    Do not do anything because of 💉.

    Family is not always reliable.

    MoH1: I have known all my life.
    MoH2 and Bridesmaid2 (🌺🙇‍♀️‘s Mom): over 18 years.
    Bridesmaid1: over 5 years.

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  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I don’t think you should make anyone else your maid of honor just because you think “it’s a lot to put on her.” Just don’t put a lot on her. She shouldn’t have any responsibilities or obligations that a 19 year old can’t handle. Buy a dress and show up.
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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    There’s no real need to make a second MOH. Your friend who is a bridesmaid can help you with whatever adult things you need help with that your sister can’t. Clearly they all know your sisters age and should already be considering that as planning happens.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I feel it's kind of offensive to make someone a co - bridesmaid or co - MOH. To me, it's saying they weren't good enough to be an actual BM or MOH. Just something to consider!

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  • Brianna N
    Super October 2019
    Brianna N ·
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    My 17 year old sister is my MOH, and I let all of my bridesmaids know. They all were happy to pitch in and help with the MOH duties since my sister is underage. I wouldn't pick a co-MOH, I would just let all of your girls know!

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  • Taylor
    Super October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    I think the friend is completely fine. My sister is my matron of honor but she lives on a different continent so I chose my college roommate as my maid of honor. I haven't known her for more than three years but we're best friends and she's been helping me in the wedding planning process the most. She also pointed FH toward the correct ring. LOL You don't need to justify who you choose to anyone.

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