Close friend can't make the wedding :(

Do would you ever pay part of a guests travel costs to come to your wedding if it meant a lot to you that they were there?

I paid for my college roommate and one of my bridesmaids, and also arranged places for them to stay, and my hubby paid for his brother and sister in law and his aunt, and arranged places for them to stay as well (we have several friends in the area with guest rooms).

Actually I do have a friend that offered a room, I forgot about that - only she's pregnant with twins and was planning on leaving early. I'm sure I have other friends that would offer the same though.

I just dont want to offend, or offer to pay part and make him feel like he has to pay the rest when maybe he can't even afford that. Why is it that money discussions are so hard, even with close friends and family. I mean I've discussed my most intimate secrets with him and I'm worried about asking him about £100!

FS's best man lives in Lubbock, TX, which is over 12 hrs away. We offered to pay for half his plane ticket if he needs help.

Thanks. He means the world to me, and I just can't imagine my day without him being there. I'll send him and email and explain that I understand things are hard, but it would mean so much to me if they could make it, and that since we have saved money on so many different things, we can pay for their travel if they can pay for the hotel.

I would do it, without hesitation.

Thanks for the reply, but such overt advertising isn't allowed on here I think.

Omg I love my FH so much - he just said yes to us paying for my friend's travel

Now to talk to my friend about it

I've paid the entire cost of one of my BMs airfare to come to my wedding - Chicago to Australia, roundtrip. I'd do it twice over, if need be. I think you've made the right decision.

Thank you for all the advice girls!

I'm so so very very happy I'm crying - he's coming! woohoo!

Aw, yay Kirsty! I'm glad it worked out. My FSIL paid for her best friend from high school to fly in for her wedding, and the friend stayed in our house. He was a wonderful guest and we were happy to host him- I'm sure you'll find a friend who can do the same!

Well it turned out he lied about the money because he felt bad he'd used up all his annual leave withourt remembering he needed to save some (allowed holiday days from work), and regretted sending me his no rsvp as soon as he sent it. His bf told him he was being silly not to come, he agreed, and he's pulling a sickie for me!!!