The thought keeps crossing my mind to do this instead of a big ceremony and reception.
FH and I have been engaged for almost 3 months, and I've done very little planning because the thought of it all stresses me out so much. We moved in together in April (in a rush because of family circumstance), and he proposed the week we moved in. So financially, we're staying afloat pretty well but there's no way we could afford the beautiful wedding I've dreamed of without it costing a pretty penny. My FMIL just spent a chunk of her retirement money moving to a new house (again, the family circumstances from earlier), and my father just traded in his car and used some of his savings for that. We haven't approached either of them about any planning for the wedding, and neither have offered to help in any way so far.
We have very little savings and basically I'm worried about the cost for everything. I've tried looking at budget tips, lowkey/affordable venues, etc. but nothing feels right. Everything is so expensive.
So I've been thinking more and more about a city hall wedding. But I'm afraid that it won't be the magical thing we've dreamed about. I know it's not supposed to be a vain thing to show off, that our marriage is about our love and commitment to each other-- but I still want it to feel heavenly.
I suppose this is coming from seeing my sister's wedding over 10 years ago, married in my parents backyard wearing a white dress from the mall. And I knew right away that I wanted to have a beautiful, traditional wedding when I got married.
Am I crazy? Too vain and focused on the grandeur of it all?
