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Just Said Yes February 2021

Church or Venue, i do not know what to decide kind of weird pros and cons

Hannah, on April 9, 2020 at 9:34 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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Hi everyone,

I am getting married in February 2021 in Minnesota so outdoor venue is not an option. My fiance is not giving me great advice, he is so excited for our wedding but really couldn't care less about details in the nicest way possible. He really just wants to spend as little as possible no matter who is paying.So that is why I need your help, my bridesmaids are not the most practical they will choose what ever is prettiest not necessarily the best option. I of course consulted my mom as she is paying for the venue, I asked her about it and she said pretty much choose what ever I want and don't worry. I know I am very blessed to have parents this generous, I am very grateful and do not want to take advantage of my mom by spending thousands of her money even for my wedding. So please help a girl out, let me know what you would choose, or your thoughts.

Option one is The Blaisdell:

Pros: it is beautiful, has an amazing getting ready area, the flow of the event would be seamless, close to airport and hotels for all our family from abroad, In love with the fireplace in the ceremony area and the white aesthetic of the reception area, the owners are so nice (which I'd rather give my $$ a owner rather than a rude one), they even have a planning area on there site if you book with them to make it easier for vendors and you, has sound system for language translation in ceremony and reception area.

Cons: parking across the street could mean slippery walk way for all including elderly guests, it's in our budget but a higher cost than a church, we would have to choose a preffred catering rather than who ever we want, they are really strict on food day off like even the food you eat while getting ready (I'm sure there is a good reason for it), I feel kind of "bad" spending more money even though it would be "perfect", but it is not as much as most venues and my mom was expecting to pay a lot more for our wedding.

Option two is our church building:

Pros: our church is brand new building so its modern, we could set things up two days before if I really wanted too, we could have homemade food like we wanted, would be a great memory to be married in our church that we are members of, almost no money for using the building, has a great sound system for language translation, but I do not feel guilty for how much we are paying

Cons: the flow of the event would not be good as the ceremony and reception would be in the same room, parking may be an issue, not the aesthetic I wanted, no getting ready room (which is not a need but would be really nice), our church is far from airport and most hotels, also uber or lyft is not really a thing in this town.

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Latest activity by Hanna, on April 10, 2020 at 11:57 AM

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Nicole · on April 9, 2020 at 11:11 PM
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I guess it would just depend on which means more to you. If it were me, I'd choose the venue over the church for a couple reasons. Yes, you need to choose one of their preferred vendors, but I think this is non-issue. You don't want to be cooking (or asking your family to cook) on your wedding day/the days leading up to your wedding. It sounds like a money saver, but the headache involved with cooking for a large group of people and making sure that the food is at appropriate food-safe temperatures for an extended period is not something you probably want to be worrying about on your wedding day. Secondly, the venue sounds like it's a better location for your guests. If you're worried about slippery walkways for your elderly guests, could they be dropped off in the front prior to the car being parked? Finally, it's the vision you have when you "picture" yourself getting married. I'd rather spend a little more if I'm able to (which it sounds like your mom is graciously offering) to get a place that will give me a better overall feel. However, the decision is ultimately yours, as this is your wedding.
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Izzykern · on April 10, 2020 at 12:36 AM
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Hi!
I live in MN as well, I would highly recommend the Blaisdell over the second option, but it definitely depends on how you envision your day and what would be the best for you and your fiance. If sentiment matters the most then I would go with the church but if aesthetics and the flow/vision of the event is your priority then I would for sure choose the Blaisdell. It definitely depends on your financial situation but ultimately it’s a decision between you and your fiancé about what you guys want for your special day (my fiancé also does not care about any of the details he just wants to get married in a classy place lol)
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Hanna · on April 10, 2020 at 11:57 AM
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Based on everything you've described, I would choose the venue over the church. Elderly guests can be dropped off at the door so they won't slip and fall on the ice. Having a nice area to get ready in is not something to be overlooked--this is very important for your big day, both logistically and mentally! The venue is probably strict about the food because they want you to get a breakfast platter or something similar from them--I'd ask for clarification. If you have family coming from abroad, choosing a convenient location that's close to the airport and hotels is definitely a good idea (if you choose the church, you would probably have to provide a shuttle or bus service for these guests, and believe, me, these are not cheap). Also, if the venue is nicer to begin with, then that's way less money that you would need or feel the need to spend on decor. We also had to choose from a relatively small list of preferred caterers for our venue, but it ended up working in our favor since all of these caterers had so much experience with weddings at our specific venue--it made the whole process seamless. Of course, it's your decision at the end of the day, but if your mom is graciously offering, I would go for it!
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