Choosing your bridal group

You should have your closest friend as your MOH because they’re your closest friend, not because they’ll throw you parties. If you’re having a hard time in your friendship, focus on that, not her role in your wedding. Be a friend first and a bride second. It’s also not the MOH’s responsibility to host these events, so that shouldn’t be a factor.

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Im definitely not stressing over the whole part because I am personally not too worried about that. I also debate with not having a bridal group just because I dont have many close friends and that stresses me even more.

The people you choose to stand up there with you, should be your closest friends and family. I have too many friends as well, so I get it that it's hard to pick! However, decide with your fiance, and set a number of people that will be standing up there on each side. If you only have 5, then choose 5. If you HAVE to add one more person, then do it! I did that, and I have no regrets.

All of my bridal party lives out of state from me, so my friends here in town are helping my MOHs and BMs plan the bachelorette party, and my and my fiance's families are hosting showers for me. There is no rule book saying that your MOH HAS to everything.

To be honest, I haven't seen my MOH #1 in 4.5 years (she lives in Texas, and I live in Missouri). I totally understand that feeling where you're wondering if you made the right decision, that it's been stressful that you're not spending much time together, etc. But, you need to ask yourself if you will regret not having your best friend be by your side on your wedding day.

Don't stress girl! You have so much time! You got this!

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This helps a LOT. Thank you!

I'm currently moh for my bff who lives in another state. Most of her bridesmaids actually live in another state. So coordinating it we have to rely on the one bridesmaid that lives in the same state but it's doable

I agree that your MOH should be your closest friend. If for some reason that person isn't likely to help you with everything you hoped, then I would hope your bridesmaids are able and willing to take one some of that or I would just suggest having a conversation about what you were looking forward to. My MOH lives in another state but I chose her because she's my best friend. She asked me to make a list of everything I want her to do/organize and then we talked about it.