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Choosing my bridesmaids

Tiaona, on April 5, 2020 at 3:20 PM Posted in Planning 0 6

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My wedding isn’t until September 2021, but I’m trying to narrow down my bridesmaids decision. My fiancé has 6 brothers, and no sisters. His brothers are going to be his groomsmen. My cousin/lifelong best friend is going to be my maid of honor. I have 3 sisters, but we all come from different moms/dads. Some of us don’t have the closest relationships. I feel obligated to have them in my wedding because they’re my sisters but I know it is going to be awkward. I don’t necessarily want to have my brother in laws’ girlfriends because I’m not too sure where their relationships will stand by the time the wedding comes. I don’t have too many close friends so I’m stuck. I know I don’t technically have to have a wedding party but my my fiancé is looking forward to having his brothers in the wedding. I feel like my situation is really specific, but how did you all choose your bridesmaids?

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Melle · on April 5, 2020 at 3:24 PM
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I think it's ok if he keeps his siblings in the wedding party. if you're concerned about it not looking even, they don't have to stand up there with you. for instance, they can just walk and take a seat instead
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Sarah · on April 5, 2020 at 3:28 PM
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A couple things:
1. I’d think about who you’d like next to you, but I wouldn’t ask anyone until closer to the end of this year so that’ll give you time to either develop relationships with your siblings more or decide whether you want them involved.
2. Don’t worry about having 6 people to match. Sides can be uneven.
I chose my best friend of 20 years to be my MOH, a cousin and a close friend to be my BMs. H had 5 on his side including a best man. Only I have a sibling and she wasn’t included because we aren’t close.
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Veronica · on April 5, 2020 at 3:39 PM
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I would wait until much closer to even ask as relationships can definitely change. I would only pick those you actually are close to. I had a lot of drama with my wedding party including people dropping out and others then wanting to be in the wedding. I wish I had done things differently.
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Ali · on April 5, 2020 at 4:54 PM
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I totally understand and know where you are coming from as me and my fiance were in the same boat. We both don't have a lot of close friends so we knew out bridal party was going to be small as well as our wedding at 50 people max including us. He has his dad as his best man and his cousin as a groomsmen and I have my two sisters as my maid and matron of honor. It is perfectly ok to not have the same number of bridesmaids/groomsmen even though the norm is to have the same. Just choose who you feel comfortable with/trust because it's YOUR big day.
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Samantha · on April 5, 2020 at 6:15 PM
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I chose two of my sisters ( the two I’m closest to) and my two dearest friends. I will have 4 attendants and my fiancé will have two. He wondered if it’s okay at first, but I never thought twice about it. I just asked the people I’m closest to. These ladies have been my support group for AT LEAST the last ten years, so I thought it was okay to ask right away during a 15 month engagement. But generally it’s good advice to wait and see if relationships change.
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Christina · on April 5, 2020 at 9:40 PM
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I would choose only the people who you want next to you. If that happens to be one or two people then so be it. Allow your fiance to have his party if that is what he wants. Each of you should be happy on your day. Consider what makes you happy on your day and that's all that matters.
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