Choosing my Bridal Party

It’s ok to have an uneven amount of members. Choose the girls that when you close your eyes you envision there and would be sad if they weren’t

It’s 100% acceptable to have an uneven bridal party. Choose the girls you know are going to support you with no questions asked.

I listed all my potential bridesmaids to my mom, and she said that I wouldn’t have any friends in the audience if I included them all. She was very correct and I narrowed it down to five, including my two sisters (who I decided are co-MOH). I consider all my friends great friends, otherwise we wouldn’t be friends! But I just tried to think about who I’m closest to and who would appreciate it more vs who couldn’t care less.

As someone who’s struggled with this, my advice is do what makes you happiest. I know that’s easier said than done. But what will make you feel at peace with your decision. I truly wanted 13 and feel so much better that I just went with what I wanted rather than trying to bend it to what people expect of me or what I think they expect of me. It’s your wedding, do what feels right to you.

I thought about who has been the most important people in my life and I know will continue to be so, and I ended up with 4 women I have been friends with anywhere from 10-15 years. My mom actually kept bringing up other friends and going "what about..." to where I had to stop her lol. I definitely had several more close friends that I could have added, but I thought about things like....when I'm in need of support, who are the ones I lean on? Who were the 1st people I couldn't wait to tell when we got engaged? Questions like that made it pretty clear to me who I wanted up there with me.

View Quoted Comment Ah yes. The people it was important for me to tell personally vs those that I was ok from hearing it on my social media “announcement”. Bridesmaids vs friends in the audience, but still friends nonetheless!

Like Hannah, I asked those I knew I could trust and lean on. I also took into account where people were in their lives - a dear friend of ours had *just* recovered from cancer, others had brand new babies - because I didn't want to overburden people.

But DH and I had uneven sides, and it's fine.

Those who you trust and you know will support you. It's never good to just pick someone bc their your friend or family only those who will be there for sure

Thank you all so much! I’ll really have to sit down with my mom and make these decisions. This is so helpful ❤️

I struggled with this A LOT. I ended up with just my sister as my MOH, and she is only standing up at the alter at vows. I don't want sooo many girls at the alter, and I want the intimacy of just having my FH and I. A few of my other girlfriends and SILs can still get their hair and makeup done with me in the morning, I'm opening up that option for them.

I think balance is important; you want to make sure you have friends in the audience, too. But uneven numbers are also fine!