Choosing bridesmaids

If your cousin is immature enough to ruin a relationship over a bridal party decision, that’s her problem, not yours.

If you want to still involve her I'm sure you can have her in other ways like doing a reading at your ceremony or something

I am sorry to hear that! If it is possible to add the cousin for a toast or a reading like melle said then that should be a good compromise. This is your wedding day and if the family is not understanding that then they don't have to be there. I have way too many relatives that I have to invite due to the fact they are my family. So I understand if they are giving you are hard time. Just remember though this is about YOU and your FH not them, they can get over it.

Welcome to the WeddingWire community Laura! It’s so great to have you here.

I’m so sorry that this is happening. Of course, there was no obligation for you to include your cousin in your bridal party if you didn’t want to. You were totally right to choose the people who you feel closest and most supported by.

Is your cousin only recently making it known that she is upset about your choice? Do you want her to have a part in your wedding, or would you be happier to have her attend as a guest? It’s entirely you and your SO’s decision.

If your cousin is really hurt about the situation, perhaps you could discuss your decision with her and reiterate that she still means a lot to you.

You don't.
You chose to not choose that person to be a part of your big day for a reason, and anyone who isn't thinking that fact through is CHOOSING to not understand.
Same situation. I do not want a particular cousin in or even at my wedding and so I didnt ask them to be a bridesmaid. I've been accused of not "choosing kin above all". And they're right. The person will absolutely never be chosen before I choose my own self in regards to peace and the like. The thing is, everyone knows that this person is a vindictive mess but they expect me to be the bigger person bc they don't expect much of anything from the other person.

It is not your job, obligation, responsibility to rehabilitate someone's inner issues by way of your wedding. Perhaps you will continue to be accused, and honestly it does suck, but that's totally their own personal problem.


Do what's best for you 🤗😊

I chose my cousin to be my MOH and she is not the right fit (nor is she fit to be my bridesmaid). Don't choose wrong for yourself in order to avoid hurting feelings. You might end up regretting and it will get worse for you (and it will STRESS you out).