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Choosing Bridesmaids?!

Kaitlin, on September 15, 2019 at 6:11 PM Posted in Planning 0 10

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Hey everyone,

I've been deciphering who to ask as bridesmaids and could use some advice. I've got three older sisters that I planned on asking to be bridesmaids. I have one best friend who I've known and kept in close contact with since kindergarten. I was her maid of honor and I would love to have her as my matron of honor. I have two other friends from high school and college who live further away. We struggle to stay in contact mostly because of the distance and schedule conflicts. One of those friends gets very emotional and sometimes bossy if she doesn't get her way and I'm assuming she's expecting me to ask her to be in the wedding. FH and I only want 3-4 people for each of us. With that said, I've got four already if I ask my sisters and my closest best friend. I don't want to offend the other two...any suggestions on what I can do so they are included as well? (Personal attendants, guest book attendants, etc?)

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Latest activity by Kaitlin, on December 28, 2019 at 11:58 PM

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Courtney · on September 15, 2019 at 6:31 PM
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You can pick as many, or as little, people you want to be in your wedding. Personally, I would stick with your sisters and close friend.
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Caytlyn · on September 15, 2019 at 6:37 PM
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You can ask them to do readings. I personally think that other roles like guest book attendant are more of a job than an honor. Especially a personal attendant. No one is flattered that you want them to wait on you hand and foot all day.
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Kaitlin · on September 15, 2019 at 6:40 PM
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That's understandable. Both hate speaking in front of crowds so being a reader would offend them both as well...
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Kaitlin · on September 15, 2019 at 7:13 PM
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I should also be clear that I'm not expecting them to wait on me or have to do jobs I just know one of them will get extremely upset if I don't have her do/be something.
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Mrs. Bubba · on September 15, 2019 at 7:43 PM
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Okay, 🛑 and take a deep breath. Now, another one.

Ask those that are going to encourage you to work to resolve your problems when things get rough.

The others can be Hostesses or Readers.

Congratulations and 🍀‼️
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Mrs. Bubba · on September 15, 2019 at 7:44 PM
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Those standing with you should fully understand the meaning and value of marriage.
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Sierra · on December 11, 2019 at 11:18 AM
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How did you end up resolving the situation?
I am in a similar predicament and think I will make the friend who I love (she is expecting a role but I want a smaller party and she isn't in that top tier of friendship anymore) a Flower Girl. She'll be involved in all the fun stuff, have a moment to shine, but not be beside me during the actual ceremony.
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Mrs. Bubba · on December 11, 2019 at 2:27 PM
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A supporting role. Also, make someone that may get on your nerves or be in the way on the day of the “point” person to keep them busy.
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Kaitlin · on December 28, 2019 at 11:57 PM
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I wound up asking my sisters and my closest and longest best friend, the one who keeps in contact the most with me. The other two friends I asked to be attendants. The one was very excited and thanked me for not asking her to be a bridesmaid as money is tight for her. The other one said she would if she could get the weekend off. She seems upset and asked right away who my bridesmaids were. She threw the whole "you promised me in high school we'd always be in eachother's weddings". I was worried at first but I've come to terms with it. She rarely answers my calls and texts and when she does its weeks later so if she was a bridesmaid I feel like it would be hard just to contact her for planning.
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