Choosing a wedding date

I *really* wanted to get married on our dating anniversary, which was a Saturday last year, and an unpopular date!

But my ILs had a long standing work/vacation in Europe at the same time. So. That put paid to that plan.

We talked to the family we really wanted there, figured out when *most* of them would be available, noticed we might start to butt up against friends' anniversaries, and found a window between those times.

It was more important for us to be married than it was to really care about the date.

We are having our minimony on the date that we started dating (and it’s also the day he proposed). So our anniversaries will all be October 6th.


As far as our big wedding we chose March 27, 2021 because the venue we liked offered us a discount to have it in a “non wedding season”

I would have liked to marry on our relationship anniversary but FH's job wont allow him to take any vacation time during that month and he has no plans on leaving his organization anytime soon.

I would have liked to marry on our relationship anniversary but FH's job wont allow him to take any vacation time during that month and he has no plans on leaving his organization anytime soon. I really Didnt have any requirements about our wedding date. I just didn't want it to be near my or his birthday.
Or in the middle of winter (Nov-Feb).

We chose our original date since it's exactly halfway in between our birthdays, and it fell on a Friday (we specifically wanted a Friday wedding). However, COVID had other plans, so we've now postponed to 2022. The new date is still in between our birthdays, just not exactly halfway (close enough!).

We wanted a Saturday wedding in the fall. When we decided on our venue, they didn't have any of those, so we went with 8/31/2019, which was the closest to "fall" that they had. Our venue had a cancellation on 11/23/2019 and we jumped on it because we were really concerned about the August heat. We have no regrets, but of course, our original wedding date was 75 and sunny and on our actual wedding day the high was like 42 and it rained the entire day. Oh well!

We chose May 16 2020. Both of us love the spring weather; not too hot and it was beautiful, 82 degrees and not humid at all! And we had it outdoors. The weather was a huge deciding factor in our date.

We wanted a Saturday in the summer, so we just picked one that our venue had available. The day becomes special when you get married, so I feel like it doesn't necessarily matter if it was special before.

I always wanted to get married in the fall, but September for me is a hellish month because almost my entire family has birthdays in September. So that left October and November. 2 of my best friends were married in October on the same weekend as each other, just in different years, so I eliminated that weekend. My fiancé’s birthday is in early October and we didn’t want to do it around his birthday so he could properly have his day to celebrate. Our nephew’s birthday is also in October. Also Columbus Day is in October so we pretty much eliminated October. That left us with November and I loved the idea of having it then because I know it’s going to be a cooler day vs. changing a fluke hot day. We chose a Friday because the minimums were lower than on Saturday and we got November 12, 2021.

Let my husband choose it because I wanted him to choose it based on his work availability and what worked best for him

There were a few things that we thought about:

1. Family availability. You can't please everyone, nor should you bend over backwards for people, but my family lives overseas so we wanted to make sure it was a time that they could come back to the states. So we narrowed it down to summer.

2. Venue preferences. We wanted to get married outdoors. The venue we liked was a winery, but they don't begin weddings until 7pm, so we needed to get married during the longer days part of the year.

3. Period cycle. Self-explanatory.

4. Little details that were important to us. Our first date was on a full moon, we got engaged on a full moon, and there was a full moon on a Saturday in July. Perfect.

Using all those, we settled on July 4, 2020.

Then Covid happened.

We ended up getting married on August 22, 2020 and in all honesty it was a much nicer day than the 4th of July would have been. It was cooler, there was better cloud coverage, the sunset was stunning, and more people were able to make it since it was no longer on a holiday.

Whatever date you choose doesn't have to already be special to you; it is going to be special because that is that day that you're getting married.

I had always wanted a fall wedding, not too hot and not too cold. We chose October because we didn't want it too close to the start of the holidays. For us, it is basically Thanksgiving, my birthday, Christmas, our dating anniversary, FH birthday, and Valentine's Day, so we didn't want our anniversary too close to everything else.

A date that the venue has available and isn’t too cold for an outdoor wedding.

We are getting married on our dating anniversary

My FH is still finishing up his degree so we picked our date based on his school schedule. 3/27 didn't start off being special but as we get closer its starting to feel special.

I wanted to get married in October, on a Saturday. When venue hunting, I made sure they had Saturday dates available in October before going to tour the venue. Our wedding date was selected based on venue availability. It was the last Saturday of October that was available, so we took it.

View Quoted Comment I definitely see what you are talking about. With me I just feel like my fiancé and I are just picking random wedding dates. None of them are that special. My fiancé does not want to change our March 21st date (that is what is on the save the dates). I want to change it due to some unforeseen and an uncontrollable family situation with a couple of my immediate family members that I can’t imagine getting married without them being there. I want to move the wedding to June 6th (which is a week after my birthday and a day after my fiancé’s birthday). Since I always have my birthday week off of work, I want to use that time to get everything ready for the wedding. My fiancé does not want the wedding the day after his birthday.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I understand that. In my opinion it’s definitely worth postponing so that core family members can be there. It’s painful to have to wait but you don’t want to have any regrets. I also understand not wanting the wedding the day after your birthday. I would probably hate that. I like celebrating one thing it a time haha

View Quoted Comment I know it is hard to plan a wedding around weather, I live in Las Vegas. With my fiancé and I we had a date for November, December, right now March, and we are looking at June. He does not want the wedding the day after his birthday. I want it the day after, since I have the whole week before his birthday off of work every year. My birthday is June 1st and his is June 5th. My fiancé feels like if we have the wedding the day after his birthday that we won’t be celebrating his birthday at all. He does not want to change the date at all, because we sent out save the dates. I want to change it due to family members I am close to and I could not see myself getting married without them there, will be unable to attend due to some unexpected life events. It is just hard to try and navigate this wedding planning.

View Quoted Comment Trust me my fiancé and I have already been engaged longer than we where dating before the engagement. We got engaged about two weeks before our 1 year anniversary. We have now been engaged for about 16 months. We will eventually get married, right now we are focusing on getting our own place.