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Choosing a Maid of Honor

Brianna, on March 16, 2023 at 11:31 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
Hello,
I’m not sure what to do about picking a maid of honor. I have very close friends, some closer than others. But out of all of them I am having trouble picking from 3.
One of them I have known since we were 4 we were very close until high school when I moved away and we just went down different paths. I do still talk to her and see her but not as often as we used to. I don’t think we are on the same page anymore. As much as I still love her I no longer consider her my best friend. More of an old friend/sister/family to me. My other 2 friends are from college/after college and know who I currently am very very well. I’m having the hardest time choosing between them. The major problem is, they had a huge falling out years ago and I’ve always been caught in the middle. I’d hate to choose one over the other because I’d think they’d both be phenomenal maid of honors. But, i can’t choose either without them feeling hurt. I also can’t not choose my childhood friend without her feeling hurt. I feel like when you previously called someone your bff for years, it’s assumed they be standing next to you on your big day Is it crazy to choose all 3? None at all? Idk what to do!!

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Latest activity by CM, on March 17, 2023 at 1:48 PM
  • Lisa
    Legend July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    How many people do you plan to have standing up in your side of the wedding party? If it's just the three of them, you could ask each of them to be a co-MOH! If you have more than three in your side of the wedding party, then I would either choose one as the MOH and everyone else be a bridesmaid, or just have everyone be bridesmaids.
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  • B
    Just Said Yes March 2024
    Brianna ·
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    We plan on having 9 on each side
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  • Lianne
    Dedicated August 2023
    Lianne ·
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    At first I was leaning towards not choosing the childhood friend since your not as close anymore but after getting the the part about the other two friends that had a falling out with eachother, the childhood friend might be the best pick. Because if you pick one of the two friends it could be seen as you picking a side between that matter even though it has nothing to do with the wedding. Especially if they’re still bitter about the situation. It’s better that they both be disappointed rather than one of them be very upset imo.
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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Pick the one person you go to first to talk about anything and everything, especially when you are celebrating or venting about your fiancé and is supportive of your relationship with fiancé.


    Keep in mind that if everyone is an “of honor” then no one is.
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  • Paige
    VIP October 2022
    Paige ·
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    You don't have to pick a MOH if it's going to be too much. It sounds like your childhood friend might not be the best choice given that the two of you have drifted apart in your adult lives, picking one of the two friends who are feuding might cause problems, I'd be wary of picking both of the feuding friends as MOH if they can't get along with one another, and picking all 3 might put your childhood friend in an uncomfortable position.

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  • Erin
    Super May 2022
    Erin ·
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    Making one or multiple bridesmaids an “MOH” is not required. You could just go the route of everyone being called “bridesmaid” and remove the drama.
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    CM ·
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    If there is not one obvious choice I would just make everyone equal bridesmaids
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