Hi!
So a few months back I had come to this awesome forum to seek help about choosing a MOH out of my four best friends. After some receiving the forum's advice, I decided not to have a MOH because I didn't want to have to choose and hurt feelings. Fast forward to yesterday where I shared my plan with 2 of my 4 bridesmaids and have since realized that I made a mistake. I now realize that I really want one of my friends to be my MOH...but how do I now tell my other friend that I'm choosing someone else to be my MOH?
Some back story:
The girl who I want as my bridesmaid (not MOH) is my best friend from childhood. We always grew up saying we would be each other's MOH. However, since we've become adults, she has moved across the country and with our busy schedules, distance, and the time difference, we hardly talk or see one another. We are still best friends and always pick up where we left off, but she doesn't have the time to really help and connect in the same way my other friend has. When I told her the news that I wasn't picking a MOH and asked how she felt, she said, "Great, it's whatever you want. It's your wedding" and then proceeded I to say, "Awesome, I figured I would delegate and give you the job of helping my mom's friend plan the bridal shower." and she said she didn't really know how to help, and so I started to give ideas. She said she likely wouldn't be able to be there either (which I totally get, not asking her to fly 3,000 miles for one day). Then we were talking about the bachelorette party and was saying all the months it shouldn't take place in because she has someone else's wedding one month, and a family trip she can't miss another month, etc.
The other girl, the one who I now want to ask to be my MOH, is my best friend from college. We live in the same time zone, talk nearly every day/multiple times a day, and she has been there for a lot of major moments in my life, including a lot of wedding planning drama. She works from home and always steps up whenever I ask for help.
My mom suggested that I wait about a month (I only told them this yesterday) and say something along the lines of to the friend I don't want as MOH, "You know, I've done a lot of thinking and I realized I'm in a bit more over my head than I originally thought and will need more help planning things than I thought. I've decided I'm going to make ______ my Maid of Honor and have her plans things out. I just know how busy you are with work and how much travel you have coming up in the next year, I just don't want you to feel weighed down or spread too thin."
Thoughts? All suggestions for what I should do and how I might deliver this message would be greatly appreciated 
Thank you!
