Chooosing bridesmaids

I decided to keep my bridesmaids in the family - my two sisters and my adult daughter is my MOH. They would be my bridesmaid regardless. I just have too many friends from various points in my life (I'm in my forties) I mean, if I had to choose it would mean having a large bridal party and I just didn't want that. My FH doesn't have much family except his preteen daughter, and she'll be standing on his side.

That’s common, I’m getting to the point where it’s going to be my soon to be sister in law, and my older sister! It’s a sweet gesture but remember it’s your day, so do whatever you want! ☺️🤍

I think it's up to you. Another consideration is if you would want the son's daughter to be flower girl (if she's young enough), because that may be expected of you, if you include the entire family in your wedding party. I say ask your own friends first and then decide on the sisters and son's GF based on your budget and what exact duties you have in mind for them.

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Agreed.....I feel too old to have too many friends and a big bridal party at this age!! Thanks for the feedback

Thank you all for the advice

Don’t ask anyone before 6 months before the wedding. There is nothing they need to do prior to that time. If you search the forum, there are many posts where brides asked the wrong people (in laws out of obligation, anyone they are not close to) and wondering how to cut them out without ending the relationship, which you can’t do. When you do anything to please other people it’s obligation and has no place in wedding planning. Something small hardly anyone will care about, it’s fine to give in to make someone else happy because it isn’t important to you. Decisions that are important to you and fiancé are not up for negotiations because it will show you are not completely happy.



Your bridesmaids should only be those in your current innermost social circle and not relatives or friends you are not BFFs with. The role is too important to give to random people.
Are you *super close* to fiancé’s sisters? They are the very first people you call when you are venting or celebrating something in your relationship with fiancé? If not, then they can stand on his side if he chooses.
Another thing to consider that is an unpopular idea but very important is that some people don’t want the financial and emotional responsibilities of being an attendant and prefer to be guests. They don’t want to be readers or other volunteer help. Being a guest is a huge honor in itself because many people don’t make the cut of being on the guest list and asked to celebrate and have fun with you.

Wait until 6 months before the wedding to ask bridal party, too much can go wrong if you ask too early. Also just a suggestion, side don’t have to be gender specific, meaning your brother can stand with you and vice versa for your FI. Just another option to consider.