Chinese Wedding Traditions

You need to read about Tung Shing on Wikipedia:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tung_Shing

I think your parents or grandparents need to buy you this book. It will provide you the days that are good when to have your wedding day, what day is best to move in with your fiance, etc.

I've never heard of Sunday being bad for a chinese wedding, but it all depends on the day if falls on the calendar according to the Tung Shing.

Good Luck on your journey of growth.

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Thank you for the info everyone! I'm glad to know that you have been to a Chinese wedding on a Sunday. We would really like to keep our day of when we started dating which falls on a Sunday. I wasn't sure if Chinese weddings could be on a Sunday because I'm assuming they run long.

3 dresses huh? I"m not too crazy about that. I'm hoping I can get away with wearing one for the tea ceremony and then my white dress for the rest of the day. I've got high hopes of combining wedding traditions... but I have to know what they all first!

Again thanks for the info. If anyone thinks of anything more, please let me know!

I'm Caucasian and my fh is chinese. we are going to do the tea ceremony pre dinner. for the ceremony I'm wearing my white dress, change into my qipao for the tea ceremony and then back to my white dress.

Pre dinner? I thought it had to be before the ceremony?

What are family and friends supposed to do if they are not involved in the tea ceremony? it just seems like they would be waiting a long time for the reception to start, and I have a lot of relatives that are coming in from out of state so it's not like they can just go home for a few hours..

It does help! I never thought to have the cocktail hour during the tea ceremony. duh. As far as what can change, I don't even really know what the norm is. I'm just very anxious since no one is giving up any info.

He really doesn't care what we do. It's for his parents since they seem to be very traditional. I feel like I've done as much as I can to be prepared. I've researched places, decor, things of that nature but haven't been able to make any decisions because of the lack of communication.

Thank you so much! I'm expecting/assuming things will be changing in the next month and a half. fingers crossed. I WANT TO PLAN.

The Tea Ceremony is usually done at the couple's homes in the morning before the wedding or in the bridal suite or other private room before the ceremony. Traditionally the couple pours and gives the tea to the important family elders as a sign of respect. They reciprocate with a red envelope full of cash for the couple to begin their future. Sooooo doing the tea ceremony publicly is sometimes a sticky situation.

I wrote a Double Happiness Unity Candle Ceremony that you might want to look at. It is on my web site.

http://www.churchofancientways.org/ReligsCulture.html

It's at the bottom of the page. I also have a section there of ceremonies in other languages if you wanted to include some Chinese.

Congratulations and Happy Planning!

L&L, Pastor April

Thanks for sharing!

Hello PaintedDream128,

I'm a Chinese bride too and my wedding is mixing alot of chinese traditions with western/american ceremony and style. My fiance and I are not traditional nor know much about. While my family is also not but fiance family is. Hence the mixing alot of it into our wedding. So, I am learning about it from my mom and his mom.

Send me a PM if you have any questions. I'll answer them as best as I can, if not..I can consult with the elders

Thank you, will do. =]