Chinese Tea Ceremony

My FH is the same as yours. I attended a wedding recently from someone on his side of the family and have seen the tea ceremony done during the reception itself, so maybe that is an option? In this case the bride had the traditional Western ceremony with the white wedding dress and then for the reception she changed into her red Chinese dress and they did the tea ceremony after the first dance but before dinner service and dancing started.

I personally would not do it months in advance, but that is just my opinion. You could also do it the day before too if you have the time. I know of someone else that did that and the parents did not seem to mind.

Traditionally, the bride and groom pours tea for the bride's immediate family when the groom comes to pick up the bride before the ceremony. After he picks her up, I've seen it go two different ways. One, they go to the groom's parents' house and pour tea for his immediate family. OR they have the ceremony and then go to the groom's parents' house to pour tea for the immediate family. (We personally went with the former because I was wearing the traditional qua when DH came to pick me up so I didn't want to be wasting time changing in and out of my wedding gown and qua). Typically, the bride and groom take time (about an hour before the reception (or cocktail hour if you're having one) to pour tea for extended family.

EDIT: If you're trying to follow tradition, then I definitely wouldn't recommend doing the tea ceremony a couple of months in advance because that would be like doing the Western wedding ceremony in advance and then having a reception a few months later... seems strange

I'd also done this during the ceremony.