Crystal
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Crystal, on November 6, 2019 at 9:49 AM Posted in Planning 0 22
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How are you that have children including them in your wedding ceremony and reception? We are looking for unique ideas to incorporate my 2 daughters which would be my fiance's step daughters. He has no children of his own. They will be 13 and 4 at the time of the wedding.


Thanks for any advice or creative ideas Smiley smile

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  • Natalie
    Devoted January 2021
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    I have a 6 year old from a previous marriage, my fiance does not have any children. We are doing to do the unity glass together, where we each pour glass crystals into a vase during the ceremony (we each have our own to pour). Then you mail them off and the company turns them into a glass art piece to keep. Found it at unityglass.com or something along those lines.

    I plan to walk down the aisle by myself, I asked my daughter to walk with me but she thinks she'll be too nervous. If she feels up for it on the big day I would love for her to walk in with me.

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  • Crystal
    Dedicated August 2021
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    Hi Natalie! That sounds beautiful! I am going to check that out!!! I also want my daughters to walk me down the isle. I feel as if i'm too old for my dad to walk me down and "give me away" . I'd rather have my girls walk with me and "Share me" with Johnny. We also decided that he will do little vows for them as well and give them a special necklace to keep. We also plan on having a big wooden heart made with the word family above it and having puzzle pieces cut out. We will each put our puzzle piece in that has our name on it. Smiley smile

    Some other things I thought of were doing a special dance with my daughters, with a special song, like you would do with your parents and Husband. Would that be weird?

    Also....What would you do for the mother/son dance if the mother has passed? Would you ask an aunt to step in, or maybe his sister? I dont feel like he should miss out on that part. Smiley sad

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  • Alyssa
    Expert June 2020
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    Have the 13 year old be a JBM and the 4 yo be a flower girl.

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  • Crystal
    Dedicated August 2021
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    Thanks Alyssa! Yep! We already had planned on that part Smiley smile I should have included that in Smiley smile

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  • M
    Expert September 2020
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    My 19 and 16 year old sons will be walking our mothers to their seats and seating guests in general. FH’s 23 year old daughter will be greeting guests, putting corsages and boutonnières on the correct people and helping to set up(her request). I asked her if she wanted to do a reading but she said she’s too shy for that.

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  • Brianna
    Dedicated December 2019
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    My younger son (13) will play/sing my walk up song on the piano and my older son (16) will walk me down the isle. Then my younger son will meet us at the altar. I’m not having bridesmaids- just my boys stand up with my. My older son will play his guitar during the cocktail hour and then when it’s time for karaoke to start, we may do a song together (if they can learn it in time).

    I totally agree about feeling too old to have my dad walk me. I needed my kids there instead. FH doesn’t have kids.
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  • Brianna N
    Super October 2019
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    My now husband has two 13 year old twin daughters Smiley smile On our wedding day, we had the girls as junior bridesmaids and they were so happy to be included and get ready with me. I bought them both rings (they actually picked them out when we were shopping for my wedding ring) and said "vows" to them during the ceremony, then gave them their rings. There wasn't a dry eye and the girls and I all cried. It was so special and I am so glad we included that part in the ceremony. I'd be happy to send you what I said if you are interested!

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  • Crystal
    Dedicated August 2021
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    I wish my girls were a bit older to play music. My dad is a musician so maybe i can have him play a song? I didn't think of that! This is my first marriage and I will be 41, so I feel I'm a bit too old to be 'given away' by my father. I've been on my own for many years. I was a single mom to both my daughters so I feel like we have a very strong bond and I want them included as much as possible. I feel as if it's not just Moms wedding, but a unity of a family. It's so important for me to have my girls there.

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  • Crystal
    Dedicated August 2021
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    Brianna!!! This is EXACTLY what I'm going for!!! I would LOVE to have you send it to me!!! I have a feeling there's going to be a lot of misty eyes at our wedding. I want it to be so special for all 4 of us. Like I said above, it's not just my wedding but also a unity of a new family. Ive never been married, and I was a single mom to my girls, my oldest especially for a long time before i met my FH. I want to include my girls as much as I can, as they are so important to me.

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  • Sara
    Dedicated September 2019
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    My husband has 3 daughters (8, 13, and 15) and 1 son. His son is 16 and chooses to have no contact with us. His daughters walked down the aisle in front of me and stood on my side. The JP also included verbiage about how the wedding wasn't about just us, it was about making a family. We thought about doing a sand ceremony but I didn't feel right doing it without his son, regardless of how his son feels about us.

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  • Brianna N
    Super October 2019
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    Exactly! It wasn't just about me and my husband, but all of us becoming a family and I really wanted to make sure the girls felt that. I will message it to you now!

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  • Crystal
    Dedicated August 2021
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    Awww. I am sorry to hear that Smiley sad Hopefully he'll be able to accept things some day. Smiley sad That makes things a bit more tough.


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  • Cristina
    Dedicated December 2021
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    This is my second marriage and I have four children (2 boys and 2 girls, two are on their own already--- I started having babies sooner than I should have lol), my finance has none--- except for our fur-babies :-). I too, keep saying this is not just our wedding. For us, it is a celebration and the start to a chapter in all of our lives that is positive compared to all the negative we have experienced. My Dad did not walk me down the aisle for my first marriage due to drama with my ex, I have always regretted allowing that to happen. So my Dad will be walking me to my brother and my brother to my Older Son, and he will walk me to my younger son, who is still living with me and has been the man of our home prior to my finance. My girls will be opening the rustic doors leading me to the aisle (opening the doors to our new chapter is my thought). My finance will be making a promise to them, not so much about him being there for them but about him filling the voids I have been without. We are also going to the do the rope braiding ceremony the officiant will explain that one rope represents me, the other my children and then the third my finance. My children and I will start the braiding first symbolizing our bond and then he will finish the braid symbolizing him uniting with us. Sorry for all the details LOL, and long reply.

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  • Crystal
    Dedicated August 2021
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    Cristina, That's beautiful. I actually choked up reading this while I'm at work. I LOVE those ideas!!!!

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  • EmAbrams
    Devoted August 2019
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    My 12 year old daughter was my MOH and only person in my bridal party. Her father passed away before she was born and she has never had a father figure in her life until now. My husband presented her with a promise ring during the ceremony with a vow to always love and respect me, and to always be there for her. I am the only person who knew it was coming and there wasn't a dry eye in the place.


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  • Crystal
    Dedicated August 2021
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    OMG I LOVE THIS!!!!! My heart!!! Smiley heart

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  • EmAbrams
    Devoted August 2019
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    My daughter has been super protective of me over the years with it just being the two of us. When I starting dating my now husband, he took her out on a date to the movies. When they were in the truck together before even pulling out of the drive way, he told me that she turned to him and said, "if you hurt my mother I will break your knee caps" lol. He new how serious she was so his first vow to her was to always love and respect me. He now takes her out on a date at least once a month and they have an AMAZING relationship. Deep down she has always wanted a daddy

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  • Crystal
    Dedicated August 2021
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    AWWW! I love it! my older daughter is very protective of me as well. It was just her and i for 6 years. She has an amazing dad, but he lives in another state. She sees him for her summer breaks. I remember her crying one time, and when I asked her what was wrong she said, "I WANT A STEP DAD!!!" And one time while i was pregnant with her baby sister, we got our car stuck in the snow. I got angry and she turns to me and huffs and says, "SEE MOMMY! THIS IS WHY YOU NEED A HUSBAND! THIS IS GETTING RIDICULOUS!!!" HA! She was so happy when I met my FH! They get on each others nerves at times, because she is a preteen, and dramatic, but deep down they love each other. He says that she has a great dad and he isnt there to take his spot but there to help when he can't be there. My younger daughter is 2 and she doesn't know her "donor". My FH is the only daddy she knows, so to her, that is HER DADDY. He said, "As long as I'm around she will know NO different. I love them like they are my own." That is EXACTLY what I have been looking for. Not only someone that loves me but someone who loves my children.

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  • EmAbrams
    Devoted August 2019
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    HA! I could totally see my daughter saying something like that a few years ago. And that is so awesome that your FH has stepped up for your two year old. What a blessing! Sounds like you snagged a rare good one! Congratulations Smiley smile

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  • Crystal
    Dedicated August 2021
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    Thank you! I feel so lucky to have found such a kind and loving soul to add to our family. Also. I'm an only child...and my parents love him Smiley smile

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