Children or No Children

We had absolutely no children outside of ring bearers and flower girl. This meant our cousins' kids, friends' kids, etc regardless of who was in the wedding party and who wasn't. This decision saved us 30+ on our head count alone.

I think that's fine. You could just do no kids at all and not have kids in the ceremony too. We included kids but not everyone ended up bringing their kids.

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Yeah I absolutely want no children. We have a couple that is in the bridal party and they are husband and wife. They have no choice but to bring their kids because they have no other family in town to keep them. So for that reason, I don't mind but I think all the other guests, no kids allowed. Thanks for responding.

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I like that idea. We have a couple that has no other family or friends to watch their kids so I am allowing her to bring them but no one else. No other exceptions. Thanks for the feedback.

I also think that is fine !

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Thank you dear for your feedback.

I just didn’t invite them. Instead of The Smith Family, i put Jack & Jill Smith on the invite envelope. And the wedding website will only let them rsvp for those on the guest list.
I did invite one child, my MOH’s son because he’s essentially family to me.

This is what we’re doing for our wedding. You have to do what’s best for you, not having children saves a lot of money, seats, & food.

View Quoted Comment Perfect. That's a good idea not adding "family" to the invite. I will keep that in mind. Thank you dear. 🤗

View Quoted Comment My point exactly and to be honest, some people have too many kids and the adults aren't able to have fun because they are worried about what the kids are doing. Thank you for your response.

That is what we are doing! I think it is perfectly fair!

View Quoted Comment Exactly! No problem hun good luck with everything!

Avoiding kids will save some people between 10-30% of their guests which adds up FAST. A lot of venues don’t give you cuts on how much it costs per head depending on whether they are kids either.

We’re doing absolutely no children. Not even a ring bearer or flower girl. It’s definitely be less stressful this way!

I think if you are going to exclude certain children you have to exclude them all- or else face anger from those guests whose children you excluded but allowed others.

My fiance and I have chosen a childless wedding too. No flower girl or ring bearer either. This saves us money on food, space, and couples can have a night to themselves. This will be nicely written on our wedding website AND invitation.

View Quoted Comment I thought about that too. But ahoikdnt they support us whether children are allowed or not?

View Quoted Comment Hmmm I never thought about doing it that way. Thanks. That's something to consider.

View Quoted Comment I would hope they support us either way..

View Quoted Comment You're so right on this. Thank you.