Children not allowed

I think i am misunderstanding. You mean the adults are trying to attend and bring a child?

View Quoted Comment Good Morning yes correct and we wrote specifically how many adults seats are reserved in their honor.
Eg. 2 Mr and Mrs .....

That is frustrating and I just feel like some people don't want to deal with trying to find someone to watch their child. I think it is very rude when you let people know that only so many people reserved for them and they try to bring someone else probably cuz I think that the kids can just sit on their lap. I would maybe send out to the people that did that that only the amount of seats have been reserved are just for them and their spouse unless the child is going to replace one of the people. Although if you kind of want just an adult only reception I would just maybe stayed that it is an adult only wedding. My friend did that and when I have my post elopement party I plan on doing the same except for my two nieces that may come from out of town from my sister in law.

View Quoted Comment Right Kristin ...so true.
We worded it very explicit and nicely.
2 seats are reserved in your honor. If a child with be occupying an adult seat please let us know. And still .......We are at the point of you come you come we will stick to our reserved seats per family

View Quoted Comment If it's only one or two people doing that then I would just call them and let them know that unfortunately only two seats are just for them and that you're trying to have an adult-only celebration. If it's multiple people doing that then maybe either contact them individually to remind them or if you have some way to group message everyone just remind them of that bad. You can even just say that due to budget and venue size we are trying to keep the guest list within a certain how to count. Although to me some people say that I could be offensive I don't feel that it is to tell people that it is an adult only wedding apart from any children that may be in the wedding party. Kids are beautiful and no one is a thing that you don't like kids but sometimes we adult we want to have adult only events and there's nothing wrong with that. Either the gas can find someone to watch their child or they can decide not to go because they don't want to pay for a babysitter. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh but that's just how I feel that not every event needs to be kid friendly. And I'm at age we're pretty much 98% of my friends have kids and teenagers hahaha.

Confused here. Are you saying you reserved two seats in their honor and they’re replying with two adults plus one child? Your words in quotes make it seem like you ARE allowing kids, so I can see how someone might think it was your oversight for forgetting to include their kids in your count. I’m sorry, I think you are sending mixed messages to your guests

Your wording is so confusing to me. If its adult only, why even have the line of "if a child is occupying an adult seat let us know" ?? What purpose does that serve?

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Agree with Chandra. As a guest- I would assume the line "if a child is occupying an adult seat please let us know" means children are invited...... Why else would it be mentioned

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. I am really confused by this wording. I read it as you are inviting guests to bring children.

I agree - the "let us know" about the children part is confusing. People could be interpreting this to mean that they can fill an adult seat with a child as long as they let you know. Even if you are explicit that it is an adults only wedding.

Your wording gives them permission to bring children. They’re not being rude.

"If a child will be occupying an adult seat let us know" makes it sound like someone could bring their child with them instead of a significant other. It sounds like you are inviting the person you know and allowing them a specific number of unspecified guests. So basically, if you invite your friend Stephanie and give her a plus one, then and it could be her husband, her girlfriend, a child, etc.

Our website says "Invited guests only. Please no children." right on the home page. So far we've had a couple friends with children ask about our wedding start time (because we haven't posted it yet) as they are making travel and childcare plans, and I've mentioned to them no kids as part of the conversation and they've all said they know because they saw it on the website. It hasn't been an issue for us at all.

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Kari explained this perfectly.!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Kari for being respectful and I for it I updated our site to say ADULT SEATS only nothing more.

View Quoted Comment Kristin I edited and stated ADULT SEATS only.

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Good luck! I hope people get the hint.

If you are having a larger wedding and many of your guests have kids there will still probably be some who try to bring their children even with it being super obvious. Hopefully this will cut down on that at least!

Do you mean you updated it to say "We have __ ADULT SEATS reserved in your honor, and if a child is occupying an adult seat please let us know" ?

Because... that's still giving permission for people to bring kids if they just "let you know."

I'm super confused.

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LOL let them know. Hopefully it works out better.

I would find, "And if a child will be occupying an adult seat please let us know“ confusing. That would suggest to me that it would be okay to bring children, so long as they let you know that the child would be occupying an adult seat. So I suspect that it's not a question of people ignoring your wishes, but of people genuinely not understanding that you are having an adults only wedding (other than bridal party children).

I feel the same way I wanted it to be a adult time no kids !!!