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Alice, on November 24, 2020 at 7:48 PM Posted in Married Life 0 17
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How long did y’all wait to start trying for kids after marriage? How did you know you were ready?

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Latest activity by Jalyn, on December 7, 2020 at 8:45 AM
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    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    I was always ready, lol. But, we’ve spent time being married, we both have stable jobs, money saved, we just bought a bigger new house so we have space. We’ve both always wanted them and we finally have things in place where welcoming a child would be a good thing and not an oh $h!t type of thing.
    We had been “trying” (not really preventing) since before we got engaged. We really started trying after we were married a year. No baby yet.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    Not married uet but hoping to try about 6 months after we marry.
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  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    We started trying immediately. My husband wanted children for years, but I wouldn't even attempt until we were married. I also didn't want to wait too long because my mom had uterine cancer in her early 30s and I am almost 27 so I didn't want to run the risk of never having children in the event I would also have uterine cancer really young. I am currently pregnant with our first child.

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  • Jai
    VIP May 2020
    Jai ·
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    We've been married since May 2020 and dont plan on trying until another 4 years. I'll be 30 then and he will be 32. Want to enjoy our time and enjoy being married alone lol
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  • Anais
    Dedicated May 2021
    Anais ·
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    I’m going to TTC about 2 weeks before my wedding and if it doesn’t stick, try again 2 weeks later. We are both going to be 29 when we marry.
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    We have children from previous relationships & definitely will NOT be trying to have a child together! Our kids are out of the house & enjoy being by ourselves.
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    FH had wanted to try immediately after being married, but I wasn’t sold on it. After having to postpone our wedding (making our engagement 3 yrs long), FH had longer to think about it and about all the places we wanted to travel and all the things we really wanted to do together, and he decided he really didn’t want us to have children either. So instead, he got a vasectomy! It’s crazy what can change over a year! 😂
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I’ve been married for over a year now and I have no plans for kids aha. My mom and mom in law are very very restless though and want to be grandmas so badly but I said sorry you’re gonna have to wait AT LEAST another four years aha. I said it’s not something I wanna do in my 20s
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    We waited until our honeymoon, which was 5 months after the wedding.

    Got pregnant a few months later, but unfortunately, lost the pregnancy.

    Trying again.

    I don't know if you're 'ready' so much as, "we want kids, and we'll just jump".

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  • mrswinteriscoming
    Rockstar December 2021
    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    I’m getting married December 2021 (intended to be December 2020 but our wedding was one of the many COVID-19 postponement victims) and we have not fully discussed when we will start trying but so far we are looking at about 2-3 years post-wedding.

    We’ve been together for almost 6 years but we are 24 and 29 and in no rush. I’d like to have my first in my 20s because I want to space our kids out (FH isn’t really fussed) so 2-3 years post wedding gives us time to financially prepare / enjoy our lives (ahem sleeping in until a normal time!) until then.

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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    We got married July 2019. We both want kids but want to wait until I finish grad school in a few more years, although we have talked about maybe trying next year when my grad school responsibilities are a little lessened. My husband and I are both 30 and want 2 kids but don't want to wait too much longer. Our mothers are also chomping at the bit for grandbabies lol. It's such a personal decision. One of my best friends and her husband just decided to start trying, and they have been married for 8 years and are in their early 30s. They wanted to pay off some debts (mostly school loans) before trying to start a family. I think part of how you know is just....a feeling. Like, my husband and I had this plan to wait until I was done with my doctorate and then.....we started becoming open to the possibility of doing it before.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    We got married in October of 2019 and started trying in August of 2020.

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  • Katelyn
    Savvy May 2017
    Katelyn ·
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    We got married in 2017 and didn't want to try for several years. I wanted us to be married and experience our lives together to as married couple. Plus, we were finishing grad/law school and didn't have stable careers. I didn't want to start until Jan. 2021 b/c then I would have been at my firm several years; however, DH convinced me to start trying last fall. And we're still trying. Although it's taking longer, I don't wish we started sooner. Our relationship is in a great place, we've learned a lot about how to tackle conflicts, how to work together and how to communicate. Plus, we are in a strong place financially and career-wise. We lived together for two years before marriage and dated for 1.5 years before living together, and we've still learned a lot throughout our marriage. I'm almost 32 and DH is 31.

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  • Ali
    Expert March 2021
    Ali ·
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    We aren't married yet. Getting married next year but after we are married for a year and financially in a place to have them we will. So we will be waiting about a year but if it happens before then, we will be happy and ready.
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  • Biaani
    Expert May 2021
    Biaani ·
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    When we get married in May we'll both be 26. We'd like to buy our own place for our first anniversary. So once we have that settled we can start trying. But we really have no rush. We both have baby fever but we could wait 2 - 3 years

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  • Ashley
    Dedicated July 2019
    Ashley ·
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    Maybe sometime next year lordwilling ✨✨
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  • Jalyn
    Dedicated August 2019
    Jalyn ·
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    We waited about 9 months after the wedding. Got pregnant right before my husband left for military bmt. We felt ready because we were settling into a secure lifestyle and we want a lot of children so we knew what time it was lol it felt right and still does. Always make sure it feels right and trust yourself. Smiley smile
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