Child-free Wedding

I think you should stick to the rule unless the mother is nursing the newborn. We too are getting married on 10/10/2020 and having a childfree wedding, excluding our flower girls (who are my two nieces). My sister's first child would not drink out of a bottle so my sister had to breastfeed her for every meal. In this situation, I would say it's a no brainer. Our good friend is due to have a child in late May and if she had to bring her newborn because of nursing need, I would allow it. For situations where parents could not find a babysitter or say their child will be really well behaved, I would say no. If we allowed kids, we would have an extra 20-25 sets! Yikes! Good luck.

You can't separate nursing mothers from their babies and most guests with older children will understand that.

Chances are that many of these new mothers won't attend or will leave early to nurse/take care of their baby.

Omg! We literally have the same situation including our date :-) some folks have either just had a baby or the babies will be a couple of weeks/months old by the time the wedding comes. I'm stuck on this one too...I think there are ultimately 2 options where you stick to no kids except the bridal party and be prepared for declined invites, or make infant exceptions for those who ask...(the only reason I say that is because they may find a babysitter on their own and then you don't have to worry about it?)


It's a tough one! I'd love to hear what others have to say

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Yea, it's really tough! Especially, because it so many people at the same time. It's a no brainer if it's just one couple, but I just don't know how to address it with there being so many.

View Quoted Comment Hey other date twin :-) you bring up some good points, thanks so much!

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Thank you and you're welcome!

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Thanks! I think were going to stick to addressing the couple on the invitation and keep a message on our wedding website saying it's a child free wedding, but if the couples with the infants ask I will let them know they can bring them in they are nursing.

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You're welcome! This is what we are putting on our website:

Can I bring my children?

We love ALL of your children, however, we have decided to make this an adults-only celebration.

We hope you understand!

As long as you understand that parents with newborns who are asked to leave them at home are not likely to come (even if they aren't nursing), then I think it's fine to stick to no kids.