Check etiquette

Just like you shouldn't ask for money, you can't tell people how to write out their checks. It's not just a pain in the ass for bankers, it's a pain in the ass for the couple, especially if they don't have a joint account. Normally both of us could mobile deposit, but if a check was made out to me in my married name or both of us in his last name, I had to go into the bank to deposit it or go on a Saturday with the hubs on a Saturday during the short time frame the bank was open. It's unfortunate, but something to be expected and planned for.

That's pretty much what I figured. Telling people how to make out a check is like saying "thanks for Giving me money in advance"

I saw someone (about to be married) rant about it on fb about how people shouldn't write checks like that and they NEED TO KNOW. And I'm like is this acceptable...?

Hahaha no, never. Ranting on fb about wedding stuff makes me not want to go to someone's wedding. People are so bratty.

Lol well she just also had another meltdown about rsvps and how people don't have plus ones and can't bring them or bring their kids and she's so over all the rsvps she got. Glad I'm not invited to that one

I'm hoping to spread it through word of mouth I'm not planning on changing my last name, no mention of checks or money. Maybe it'll spread, maybe it won't. I'm dreading having to go to the bank.

@pushing Well, if you do end up not changing (I'm also not changing my name so I am genuinely curious) and getting a lot of these dreaded (not dreaded, any gift is amazing) checks, I can give you some advice. Have FH sign first. Then you sign in the name it was written for, then your name. It's a lot of signing for you and the men get off easy. Of course check with your bank ahead of time but this should be more than acceptable. Do not write for deposit only, even if it's a joint account, because like I said, the name on the check won't match the name on the account so you'll have to put the work in.

Thanks for the advice greatly appreciate it!!

yay for money... boo for checks.. even gifts aren't free in this world thanks for bringing this to our attentions. Need to double check with wells Fargo when it is that time

We opened a joint account before the wedding, and our bank allowed us to deposit all of our checks no prob, even before I legally changed my name. I don't even remember endorsing them...I think my husband was the only one who did!

I feel your pain! I know people are just trying to be sweet (and I appreciate their generosity!) but it irked me to get so many "Mr and Mrs. John Doe" checks when I'm not changing my name. We haven't tried cashing them yet but I'm assuming my (new) husband can cash them himself. Will report back if that's not the case!