Cheapness as a wedding guest

How you handle it is by moving on. Gifts are not required and they give what they give. They may not "appear to be struggling financially" but you don't know their financial situation. They have 3 kids. Kids are expensive. Also, there may be other factors. There's really not a required gift amount and some guests don't even give any. We had some not give, some give us small gifts (we got a $25 gift card from 1 couple) and others gave very generously. At the end of the day, other people's financial situations are none of your business. You thank them for the gift they gave and move on with your life.

You're allowed to think he was rude. But I absolutely, 100% think there is nothing for you to "handle" in this situation. If you allow his perceived "cheapness" to affect your friendship with him, then that will show him that you don't understand gifts or friendship or the meaning of your wedding at all.

Unless you have first hand knowledge of his financials, it's unfair to think the gift they gave you is "cheap". That could have been all that was left in their budget for your wedding. Sometimes appearances are not a reflection of the truth.

Thank them for the gift and their presence to celebrate you both, and move forward

View Quoted Comment Hi Maggie, you are absolutely right. That helped me reframe my thought process. Appreciate it!

Wow…$50 is low especially for two. I can see if they are struggling financially or they are seniors and still think it’s 1970.
I can’t wait to see who gives what next year.

They weren’t cheap. They were generous to bring a gift and you’re turning your nose up at it. It’s not good enough for you. What do you feel you’re entitled to? $100? $500? Do you want to see their paystubs today make sure they’re spending as much as they can on you?

Saying you’re appreciative and “ looking at him with disbelief and how incredibly cheap he and his wife was” are contradictory statements. You posed a question - you asked if you were “crazy” to think it was rude. I was being polite in my original response. To answer your original question directly, yes, you’re crazy to think that.

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LOL. thanks.

View Quoted Comment You’re welcome!

I wish brides/grooms would just post the event entry fee to their gala event so we, as guests, stop getting slammed for what we perceived was a thoughtful gesture (no matter the amount given).