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Expert June 2015

Charity Wedding Registry

Krystina, on April 7, 2015 at 8:15 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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FH and I have lived together for almost 4 years when we get married and we honestly don't have anything that we need for a registry. Instead of asking for gifts we would like to have our registry so to speak be 2 or 3 charity options that are dear to us. He has MDA and the local children's hospital and I have cancer research as well as the same children's hospital. We have family members that this would be honoring and helping make them a part of our wedding since they have passed on, and help a good cause. I just have no idea how to let people know we would like that instead of gifts. Any suggestions? Has anyone done something similar? We aren't greedy people and don't expect anything for our wedding. We have had people start asking us though and so as we have thought about it this is the direction we would much rather go.

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Latest activity by Amie, on April 7, 2015 at 8:14 PM

Master October 2015
Brigit · on April 7, 2015 at 8:20 AM
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If you have a wedding website set up you could say in a section "instead of gifts the bride and groom would like donations sent to " such and such organizations
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Master October 2013
.... · on April 7, 2015 at 8:33 AM
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I would say just don't register, and if you receive cash (which you will), donate that to the charities of your choice. People don't like being told what to donate to. If people ask where you are registered/what you would like, you can just say you didn't register and you could mention the charities then as well.
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sandpiper · on April 7, 2015 at 8:36 AM
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I've seen folks list a charity, along with a link to the donation page and an explanation of why it's important to the couple, on the wedding website. It can be alongside a regular registry or instead of it.
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Master October 2015
Pancakes · on April 7, 2015 at 8:59 AM
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Agreed with Surfergirl86. On your registry page on your website, write a little something about why you didn't register and why those charities are important to you.
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Expert June 2015
Krystina · on April 7, 2015 at 7:22 PM
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So it is ok to tell people what to buy and where to buy it from, but not to ask that if they choose to give a gift you would prefer a donation to charity X, Y, or Z? All of the wedding stuff is new and unfamiliar to me as I have honestly only ever been to 3 weddings in my life and the invites were not addressed to me but to the entire family. I am just trying to figure all of this out in a short time.
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Amie · on April 7, 2015 at 8:14 PM
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We did something similar. WE have a small registry and then we have a honeymoon portion of the registry (I know...etiquette police are coming) and we said that whatever we received in honeymoon "gifts' that we would donate 25% to my favorite charity and 25% to my FH favorite charity. We were very clear as to why these charities are special to us and what the donation would be used toward (mine is Whale research in the North west, and FH's is helping build a skatepark for kids in Cuba)

again, we did a small wedding registry, mainly updates to current items we have, a kitchenaide, and some bedding. We also included experiences on our registry, cooking classes, sky diving, those kind of things.

It has a little bit of everything, if people choose to participate, and they don't feel pressured to only choose the honeymoon/charity fund
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