Charity donation favor--how to let guests know?

I love this idea! Very sweet

I don't really like the whole pointing out that you made a donation but if you feel like you need to do something at most I would put a sign on the card/guest book table.

I'm thinking of doing this too, since we aren't going to do favors. I figured I would just frame a typed up sign stating that we are donating and putting it on the table with the card box and guestbook.

The best way ive seen is a couple who just wrote up a little thing saying Thank you for coming to our wedding, a donation has been made in the name of our guests to X charity" they had it placed in a cute frame on each table.

@Brigit that's the other consideration, I don't want it to be in your face like "we're such good people see??" but I know we'll have some stick-to-tradition guests who will wonder.

Put it on you website if you must. I'm with Brigit, it feels weird to advertise this fact.

Edit: No one will wonder why they didn't get a favor, favors are rarely done anymore.

Double edit: what Rebecca said.

Ive been to weddings where each person got a little scroll at their place saying that the donation had been made, however no one actually took their scroll, so it was probably a waste of paper.

Not to be a downer, but I think donations to charities and wedding favors should be kept separate. It's not really a favor to your guests to donate to a charity, and charitable giving is a private matter between the givers and the charities. It's a well-intentioned thing but I don't think a donation to the charity should be advertised to wedding guests, since the two things are unrelated.

(Really hoping Celia pops in on here since I know this is something we agree on...)

I think one sign is plenty then, my dh's cousin did a little candy at each place setting with a note stating a donation had been made. It just irked me for some reason. Keep it simple, if people ask hopefully there will have been someone that read the sign at the card table.

These are really the worst. You don't need favors, save the money and donate on your own separately from the wedding. No need to showboat. I literally have no idea why this is a thing.

@Emmy worse than a cash bar?

FH found the idea online and really liked it, which is why I agreed to do it (it's actually one of the few things he really cares about). I'll talk to him about just doing it separately.

Either don't "announce" it at all, or put a small sign near your guestbook or gift table.

You shouldn't

Eh. I also think that while a charity may be dear to your heart, it may not be for others. For example, if I were to do this, we would obviously choose the Maui Humane Society as we volunteer there and adopted our dogs from there. I know others who don't like MHS because they're not a no kill organization, so they choose to donate only to other animal shelters here on Maui instead...

You don't announce it. Just do it, and don't make it part of your favor. Favors are unnecessary anyway.

What if a guest doesn't agree with your charity of choice? I see some issues here.

@Spazzy that was the other thought we had, that guests would get a little sheet of paper where they could select a charity and we'd donate in their name. But then I thought that might be a logistical nightmare, so we altered it to keep it more simple.

I prefer the in lieu of a registry, ask guests to donate to a charity that's near/dear. But I feel like you donating and then telling your guests that it's their "favor" is odd.

The other problem i have with this is I frequently, and vehemently, disagree with the charities behind donated too. And even if I didn't feel that way, someone out there would. I find them too polarizing.

Like, if I went to a wedding and saw they donated to PETA instead of favors, I'd be so physically angry it'd be hard to calm down (I would, but it would not be enjoyable) and my impression of that couple will be changed, forever, for the worse. & PETA is one of those things people think everyone wants to donate too (even though they're evil).

I agree with Rebecca and with Miss Manners for that matter. Skip the favors, they are not required. Go ahead and make your donation because it is a nice thing to do. Announcing it at the wedding is odd. First, because as others have said not everyone will see it as a favor to them and second, because it comes off as self congratulatory.

I saw this at another wedding and didn't think anything of it, which is why I was going to do it myself, but now you ladies are making excellent points in that it really doesn't make much sense. I think I will scrap the sign idea and favors and just donate privately. That's why I love WW.