Changing Wedding Date

It's ok to change your date, just let people know. This is why you only give STDs to the VIPs and don't post wedding info on social media

That certainly should have been taken into consideration before handing out any save the dates, but at this point backpedal where you can I guess.

If you've only passed out a few STD's, then perhaps you could just tell those people by phone or however, that it has changed. Not the easiest thing to do, but if you must...

And for the FB wedding website, from my personal experience, unless you're inviting every one of your FB friends, I wouldn't post about my wedding there.

I posted the website only to people on my guest list.

Let everyone know but not on social media.

I don't see a problem with changing your date.

How did you share your website on Facebook? I.e, did you make an event or a group message etc?

I put the link in a normal post, but I edited who could see the post so only people on my guest list could see it.

It doesn't matter. Never post it on social media. Keep it private until invites. Things happen and plans change.

Contact your vendors asap.

You'll have to contact the people who have already been sent STDs to inform them of the change. Other than just making the announcement that you're waiting until you've both accomplished your school/career goals before being married, you should be good. If you have any deposits down, you can check if any of them are refundable but you may just have to lose out on them if you've made any.

Did you book a venue?

I'm not sure how to handle the FB thing. Definitely put a note on your wedding website that the date has been postponed. The people who saw the post may have put the date in their calendar already, so they will need to be advised.

Did you already book a venue that you need to cancel? I personally don't think it's a good idea to put anything wedding related on facebook besides the occasional picture or countdown post

Seconding GymRat's question...

Did you book a venue? What about vendors? Did you pay deposits?

Change it but let everyone know you changed it

The wedding is at a regional park so it was only a couple hundred dollars and I would get an 80% refund so that's not much of a problem.

I don't have any additional advice on top of what everyone else said but I wanted to commend you for making the smart decision to wait a few years.

I think you are so smart for wanting to wait a few years. Call everyone that you sent save the dates to. As far as social media, just delete the post & if anyone asks, tell them the truth but, not on social media. I highly recommend waiting. I got married at 19 years old & didn't even know myself yet. I also missed a huge opportunity to go to college but, got married instead. Only to get divorced, not even, 4 years later. Get enough of school done so that it won't be so stressful. Also, both of you will do a lot of growing & changing between now & then, just make sure you do that in the same direction & you'll be fine. ETA - spelling & punctuation

It's fine to change your date. I would just text people I've given STDs to and then stay away from posting any more details about the wedding on social media. It's never really a good idea. Also young couple here also!! And your profile picture is so cute-- LOVE R2!!

Wait until you graduate, as a current nurse, school took all my time and energy. Seriously nursing school is an ass kicker. It was so worth it but I wouldn't want to risk jeopardizing my education by adding too much to my plate if I were you. I know there are people who plan weddings well they are in school but if you can avoid it I would. It will give you both more time to save for the wedding. If it's right now then it will be right in a few years, there is no harm in waiting. Message or call people personally to let them know.

Delete the FB post. Contact the people who got save the dates. Keep a hard copy of the list of anyone who got any form of notice of the date.

My friend from college ended up having a 3.5 year engagement. They got engaged, then he got into law school, so they decided to postpone the wedding until after the bar exam.

It's doable, but you'll have to explain exactly why, and they will have to be invited to the new event.

It's ok to change the date just let your guests know . I think it's great you want to finish school first.