Changing the Wedding Date

You're on the right track. Decide which date you and your FS want. Book that date with the venue and make sure you have everything squared away with them before you contact other vendors.

Then start with the next big vendor and ask if they would be able to do the same service for the new date. If not, make a note of it and move on the next vendor. Once you have contacted everyone that you have a contract with, notify your guests. A phone call will be your best bet.

If you have any vendors that weren't able to change, therefore terminating your contract, look for new vendors and book them like you did with the original vendors.

Most importantly, don't forget to breathe. This sort of thing happens all the time in the wedding industry.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the calm and collected post. I can't even think straight right now, but those sound like good steps. I'll do that. Thank you so much.

I'm sure if you explained to your vendors that the reason you're changing the date is because of deployment, they'll understand and try their best to work with you.
Why don't you call the other vendors you have and see if they're available on those 2 dates.
As for the save the dates, I think if you send a card with the new date on it people will understand and if they have questions, I'm sure they'll ask.

Oh dear. So sorry to hear. Thank your fiance for his service and many prayers for the deployment.

That said, do you happen to have wedding insurance? A lot of times insurance will cover the costs related to changing and/ contract cancellations.

Best of luck!

View Quoted Comment We do not have wedding insurance. We thought we had a lot more time and didn't think we had to worry about this since he broke his leg (broke his femur clean in half) last year when we were both deployed. They see him as all healed though, so they went ahead and tasked him.

Thank you SDsquared. I'll let him know and we appreciate the prayers.

For changing the date, send out something like this! This one is Disney themed lol but just to give you an idea.

Good luck and lots of prayers to you both!

View Quoted Comment That's a great idea! I love it, thank you!

This has been a worry for me during the planning process. We, too, are getting married in September 2019. My FH is in the Air Force and the thought of a deployment has been so worrisome to me. I would simply start back at the beginning, as you mentioned. Speak with your venue and discuss what has happened. Seeing what dates would work with your FH and the venue. From there, just speak to each individual vendor. Many of them will understand completely. This happens, and it is a circumstance that they often make many adjustments for.

As for the STDs, I would just send out a card stating there is a change in the date due to deployment. This may also depend on how many you are inviting. If your invite list is low, you may be able to speak personally with many of your guests to inform them of the change.

Don't get stressed out, just take it a step at a time! Best of luck in the planning, and prayers through the deployment!

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I love this idea, definitely a good choice!

View Quoted Comment I hope you don't have to deal with this. We weren't even thinking this was going to happen with his broken leg, but they have been hitting our base hard with deployments these past few years. This will be his 3rd in a row, and would have been mine too had I not gotten out this past May.

Luckily, September 7th is our new date, and there shouldn't be anything to steer that wrong military wise. Fingers crossed! Thank you for the vote of confidence. We're repairing as much as we can as quickly as we can. We are starting to look on the bright side of things, but we may be turning this into a wedding celebration instead of an actual wedding. We might just get married in a courthouse before he leaves and continue planning our dream wedding while he's gone. It's been a day but if this isn't what marriage is about, I don't know what is haha.

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That is awesome to hear you have chose a new date! I hope that it works out for you in the end. We have concerned deployment throughout our whole planning thus far. We have spoken to all of our vendors before signing contracts. I hope we won't have to deal with it either. It sounds like his deployment will come up for 2020 so just after our wedding, thankfully. Fingers crossed, we will see!

We have considered the courthouse before the actual wedding. We will see if we chose to do it or not lol. If you can get through this bump planning, you will be good through marriage. Everyone will be happy whether it's a wedding or a celebration regardless. Don't stress, it'll work out in the end!