We're here to help you keep moving forward, no matter what your plans are.

ElucidBride215
Savvy May 2021

Changing Makeup Artist?

ElucidBride215, on April 14, 2020 at 10:26 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
Saved Save
Reply

So this is a long complicated thing, but I really feel like I need community advice.

Makeup artist is family through fiance, who is amazing at what she does and is incredibly talented. She has a room which functions as her studio although she is now associated with

I scheduled my hair trial for one month before the wedding (if it goes), and I told her many months back and I would love to have both makeup and hair trials done on the same day. I said I would pay her, and she would have a place to go to do my makeup.

I said to her this morning that if she is unable to do my pre-bridal makeup, then she needs to let me know so I can get someone else for my wedding because I need a commitment.

The thing is, even with this virus going around and vendors re-scheduling tons of brides (and my heart goes out to them), I wish she would have treated me like any other client. Didn't apologize, completely bulldozed my feelings about the matter, but said she understood that it was my day, I should get someone else to do it, she would understand. In short, she has several commitments to others that day but didn't even bother to tell me, I had to ask her - but I'm thinking that she had, at the very least, one commitment prior to this pandemic and didn't even say anything to me.

I simply wanted a commitment from her (a scheduled date in advance!) out of respect for her time, and my own.

I just get frustrated sometimes because I see a lot that people shouldn't hire family to do specific things, i'm beginning now to see why - you are viewed as not the same as another client, because your time is somehow not as valuable or because they think you wouldn't pay.

It would be extremely difficult to get someone else to do makeup at this point - not only because time is closing in, but also because of the pandemic. Even if I did, literally every other makeup artist knows her in my area - that industry is very close.

As of right now I am anticipating being essentially on stand-by for that date, and (as much as it irritates me) am willing to have her do my makeup on her schedule, when I have no idea what anything will look like in a few months.

Was I wrong in calling her out? I'm really hurt that she didn't even try to schedule me in at some time - when she would have for anyone else. Should I just try to get someone else at this point? I don't want to erode the relationship I have with her, but I'm not going to be treated like crap, either. This is not the first time she has hurt my feelings.

She didn't even try months ago before all this to try to schedule something with me, and I think that is what hurts the most - she just doesn't care.

6 Comments

  • Monica
    Super October 2021
    Monica ·
    • Flag
    She has prior commitments on the day of your hair trial, or on your actual wedding day?
    • Reply
  • ElucidBride215
    Savvy May 2021
    ElucidBride215 ·
    • Flag
    View Quoted Comment

    She does, yes. She had a wedding scheduled that day I believe (which she had to have known far in advance).

    The point is - she should have told me the minute I mentioned the date, so we could have rescheduled, or told me that she couldn't do it. She KNEW she had prior commitments and hid them from me, prior to the virus, making me ask periodically and then not answer me for months, and I think she added an additional appointment that day for a corona bride (which I completely understand).

    I realize that hair and makeup don't have to be the same day. A wedding day, however, pre-virus, books very far in advance, and to reschedule and postpone for brides during the pandemic, I absolutely understand. The point is - she knew - and instead of confronting the conflicts head on, she avoided it in the hopes that I guess I would just "deal with it."

    I think i'm just upset because I think she booked some things for clients in advance of this pandemic, and didn't tell me, when she knew I wanted her for that date. She didn't even try to get a date down that she could do, which I think is disrespectful.


    • Reply
  • Monica
    Super October 2021
    Monica ·
    • Flag
    View Quoted Comment
    Okay so it sounds like this is for the date you wanted for the hair trial and not on your actual wedding date. Yes its rude of her to knowingly be fully booked on a date and not give you a response or communicate with you that shes booked and keep you guessing. I am very understanding and patient but sometimes I get to a point where I have waited enough, I need to know what the plan is Now. If that person isn’t able to communicate that to me by that point, then Im going to move on.


    You sound like you are still considering using her as ur MUA but when you asked her and she said to get someone else to do it. She didn’t say I can do it another day. If you use her I wouldn’t expect any other behavior from her. Hopefully she doesn’t pull this move on your wedding date. You could give her a second chance but this time don’t leave thr ball in her court. Tell her you want to have a different date and give her a week to get back to you and confirm. If she takes longer than that then find someone else.
    • Reply
  • ElucidBride215
    Savvy May 2021
    ElucidBride215 ·
    • Flag
    View Quoted Comment

    Yes, just a trial, she already committed to my wedding day, but it's always something with her. She'd still have to commit for a pre-bridal anyway.

    She did say she could do another time but wouldn't schedule me with a time because "everything is up in the air" and "her book is a mess right now."

    That's why I'm nervous - because there's no contract she could just blow me off.

    That's where I am at this point. I don't think she's going to confirm, and that really disappoints me, because she'd have to do it for anyone else, and she's taking advantage of the fact that I'm not a regular client, only I'm being treated worse.

    • Reply
  • Monica
    Super October 2021
    Monica ·
    • Flag
    View Quoted Comment
    Well you still have time to make a decision. I dont like to have to pull someones teeth to get an answer out of them but Maybe give it some time then ask again for her to reassess her schedule and confirm the trial. And in the mean time look for other artists as a backup plan.
    • Reply
  • ElucidBride215
    Savvy May 2021
    ElucidBride215 ·
    • Flag
    View Quoted Comment

    We talked about it - in light in everything going on, with tons of corona brides being rescheduled, I can be flexible it's not a big deal, I will have a chance to have some kind of trial done. Her friend who is doing my Bridesmaids' makeup is available as a backup if she is not, although they are obviously separate people, their styles are pretty close (with the original person doing my wedding day).

    The issue is that she is going to be family, and with a family of her own, I want to give her the business.

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×

Related articles