So this is a long complicated thing, but I really feel like I need community advice.
Makeup artist is family through fiance, who is amazing at what she does and is incredibly talented. She has a room which functions as her studio although she is now associated with
I scheduled my hair trial for one month before the wedding (if it goes), and I told her many months back and I would love to have both makeup and hair trials done on the same day. I said I would pay her, and she would have a place to go to do my makeup.
I said to her this morning that if she is unable to do my pre-bridal makeup, then she needs to let me know so I can get someone else for my wedding because I need a commitment.
The thing is, even with this virus going around and vendors re-scheduling tons of brides (and my heart goes out to them), I wish she would have treated me like any other client. Didn't apologize, completely bulldozed my feelings about the matter, but said she understood that it was my day, I should get someone else to do it, she would understand. In short, she has several commitments to others that day but didn't even bother to tell me, I had to ask her - but I'm thinking that she had, at the very least, one commitment prior to this pandemic and didn't even say anything to me.
I simply wanted a commitment from her (a scheduled date in advance!) out of respect for her time, and my own.
I just get frustrated sometimes because I see a lot that people shouldn't hire family to do specific things, i'm beginning now to see why - you are viewed as not the same as another client, because your time is somehow not as valuable or because they think you wouldn't pay.
It would be extremely difficult to get someone else to do makeup at this point - not only because time is closing in, but also because of the pandemic. Even if I did, literally every other makeup artist knows her in my area - that industry is very close.
As of right now I am anticipating being essentially on stand-by for that date, and (as much as it irritates me) am willing to have her do my makeup on her schedule, when I have no idea what anything will look like in a few months.
Was I wrong in calling her out? I'm really hurt that she didn't even try to schedule me in at some time - when she would have for anyone else. Should I just try to get someone else at this point? I don't want to erode the relationship I have with her, but I'm not going to be treated like crap, either. This is not the first time she has hurt my feelings.
She didn't even try months ago before all this to try to schedule something with me, and I think that is what hurts the most - she just doesn't care.