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Changing maiden name to middle name when taking Fh's last name...

Ruth, on October 9, 2019 at 7:33 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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Hi everyone! First post here.

So, I'm definitely decided in taking my FH's last name, but I don't know what to do about my middle name. I've never loved my middle name, it's pretty and flows well, but not the best memories associated with it. I do love my maiden name! I also don't anticipate us having children, and I'm an only child. I would love to keep my maiden name somewhere in there, but would it be weird to have my maiden name be my middle name? And then what happens to my current middle name after, is it just gone?

I've never had to think about all of this until now so advice and opinions are welcomed!

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Latest activity by Carol, on October 10, 2019 at 2:51 AM

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Marcia · on October 9, 2019 at 7:43 PM
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I took my maiden name for my middle name 22 years ago when I got married. This time I’m keeping my maiden name and dropping my current last name and taking my FH’s last name. My boys are older now so having the same last name matters much less to me.
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Champion October 2018
Kelly · on October 9, 2019 at 7:43 PM
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That’s a super common thing to do in the south! Yes your middle name would just be gone. Check with your local clerk and make sure that’s allowed as it differs by state on what can be changed via the marriage certificate vs needing a court order.
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Cher Horowitz · on October 9, 2019 at 10:35 PM
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This is what I'm doing! As PP said, your current middle name is going to be dropped. I'm not that sentimental toward my middle name, so it was a fairly easy decision to make! I wanted to keep my last name as it's unusual and it's been part of my identity for my whole life. This is a great compromise, in my opinion
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Caroline · on October 9, 2019 at 10:41 PM
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What a great idea!! I wonder if you could add a middle name if you don't already have one? hmmmmm
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Devoted October 2019
Carol · on October 10, 2019 at 2:51 AM
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Just be sure you can legally make your maiden name your middle name. Some states won't allow you to do that.
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