My ex is not involved at all in my son's life. My son has my last name. Im due to get married next summer and I am having an internal battle. My last name is very unique and I am the only one with a boy to carry on that last name. On the other side of it, I really do want to take my FH last name but do not want a different name than my son has. We have discussed possibly having a child together who would definitely have my FH last name. If I keep my maiden name, my last name would be different than that future child. My FH is planning to adopt my son after marriage but we are not forcing my son to change his name 1) because I want my family's last name to continue on. 2) because my son has trouble with spelling and writing so changing his last name may be difficult in that regard. 3) I am leaving it up to him because I want him to be comfortable. I really do not want to hyphenate mine or my son's last name either.
So I guess I am asking a few different things here...1) have any of you had experience with this?2) if you have a different last name than your kids, what issues have you run into?3) if you chose to keep your maiden name, do you regret anything?4) if your child changed their last name, was it a difficult transition?