I need a bit of advice. My partner and I are getting married in Oregon (my home state) in June 2020 and we just landed on date. So far there's two major things facing us:
1) My partner is from the east coast, it's where I went to university, and where we currently live. Thus, for 140 or so of the 150 people we are inviting, this will be a destination wedding. Both sets of parents as well as our bridesmaids/groomsmen are on board. We understand that there will naturally be drop off but the most important folks have committed to being there. We're hoping that 80-100 can make it. We are having the wedding in Oregon as I grew up working on a vineyard there and it's always been the place I wanted to get married. On top of that the owners have generously donated the venue and to find something of comparable beauty and value on the east coast would be an impossible endeavor.
2) For the 10 or so of my family members living in the area, we made an assumption that they would be there as they are the only local people. Unfortunately not. It turns out my aunt's niece (not related to me) is getting married the same weekend, so 5 of the 10 people we counted on and who I have close relationships with will not be able to make it as they will be in Wisconsin.
The cats out of the bag about the date, friends are already looking for plane tickets and requesting time off. Does it make sense to change it to another weekend since we're early enough in the planning process? Should we just say we're sorry they can't make it?
My partner is stressing that this is a bad sign and we should change the date but I'm hesitant as there's already plans in motion.
