Change the Date!?

I don't think you should change your date for anyone other than you and your FH, but you also can't expect your friends to do it either. If it's important for you to be at their weddings and have your mutual friends at yours, I would change the date. But if not having them there/you not being there for theirs is okay with you if it means having your date, then that's fine too. Just comes down to which is more important to you and FH.

Honestly, if you aren't attached to the date for any other reason other than "it sounds good", I'd just pick a new date. It will be way less stressful for you if you just find another date that sounds good to you and go with that. The only way I'd stand my ground over a date is if it was an anniversary or something. Trust me, there will plenty of other things that will pop up to stress you out over the course of wedding planning. Sometimes you have to pick and choose your battles and if being the maid of honor in someone elses wedding the same month and having overlapping friends will be an issue, I'd just pick another day.

Absolutely this. The other question is - have you just picked a date or has anything been booked? Next October is a very popular month and a lot of venues/vendors will already be booked up. You might actually find it easier to plan if you're more flexible with your date.

Agree with this. It stinks because you're the one who chose the date originally, but changing it is only going to make life easier for you. Have you signed contracts or made deposits on anything yet?

If I didn't have anything booked yet, I would move the date. We had to shift the date we were thinking of when my best friend set her wedding date for around the same time. We didn't have anything booked yet, and having my best friend with me (and me being with her) was more important to me than a specific date.

I think until you've booked a venue, your date isn't truly "picked" yet. As someone else mentioned, October is a really popular time to get married, so it's totally feasible that you find a venue you love that's already booked for that date. If your friends have dates and venues booked, and especially if you definitely want to attend their weddings, I'd consider moving it, or at least being flexible depending on the venues you look at.

I agree that until you have picked your venue, you're date isn't truly set. That goes for your friends as well. I think it may be easier to be flexible with your date so you can find the venue you really want vs. limiting yourself by a date. I know when we went to go pick a venue back in April, they were booked all the way through next October and our date was the first they had available.

Welcome to Tennessee! I've lived in Tennessee my entire life but moved to Nashville 4 years ago. October is my favorite month, and I totally get wanting to get married in October! I would suggest early November for better weather, though. It can still be hot here through the full month of October. If you want pretty leaves, the first week in November is the best weekend for that. My sister-in-law is a professional photographer and always waits til the first week of November to have her fall mini sessions because that's when the leaves are prettiest. Also, venues in Nashville get booked up quickly and far in advance so I'd go ahead and start reaching out to vendors!