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Michelle
Dedicated November 2021

Change the Date Etiquette

Michelle, on August 17, 2020 at 11:57 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 4
So we are postponing to next November and I am planning to contact our guests and let them know. I also want to send out “change the date” cards, but I’m not sure when to do this. We have the new date set, so do I send them in the next few weeks (when we would have been sending invitations) or wait until next spring when save the dates would normally go out?


Also, we are still planning on getting married on our original date in a very small ceremony with just our parents. For those of you that did this, but still are planning to have a full ceremony and reception at a later date with all your guests, did you tell them you’re already married? I don’t feel the need to formally announce it, but don’t want some people to know and others not because someone if bound to get offended. But I also don’t want to keep it a secret for a year...

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    If you're already reaching out to each household to tell them you're postponing, I would skip physical change the date cards and just send new save the dates 6-8 months before your new date. You should also be honest with your guests about the fact that they're attending a vow renewal or a celebration of marriage, now your wedding.

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  • Lisa
    Legend July 2022
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    I personally would send the Change The Dates sooner rather than later for cases where the wedding is being postponed to 2021, since a lot of people are postponing to 2021, and getting your date out to your guests early would be a good idea. Otherwise, 6-8 months prior to your wedding is totally fine! Maybe send them around December or January to give a little extra time, but also where it's not too far in advance?
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  • Michelle
    Expert March 2020
    Michelle ·
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    I would send change the dates as soon as you can & maybe not so Save the Dates then! Let them know it'll be a celebration of marriage not a wedding


    We were forced to postpone our reception 4 days before our date but still got married on our date. We even live-streamed it so our family and friends could see!
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  • VIP August 2020
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    We sent save the new date magnets when we would've sent the invitations. Our magnets didn't say much, so we also included a note (I just printed them onto cardstock at home). The gist of the note was: covid's a thing now, we're still getting married this year but we don't want anyone to get sick at our wedding so we'll invite you to celebrate with us when that seems safer.
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