Change of wedding plans…

I am looking for an answer to this too! I am ordering a few "we have downsized due to COVID" off zazzle. I feel horrible too! But I do hope people are understanding

My friend had to do this in Oct 2020. They sent “unsave the dates” pretty much saying “due to COVID we have to downsize our guest list to keep everyone safe”. I know it sucks but most people should understand

Here is a website that has a template for a letter you can send to guests who you have to uninvite due to COVID: https://theeverylastdetail.com/coronavirus-wedding-postponement-email-templates-to-send-to-guests/

View Quoted Comment Thank you, that’s going to help!

The only really good way to do this is to cancel the original event and plan a much smaller one. Most people would understand why.

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Hi Jacks- so this is essentially what I did - switched venues to a backyard - most likely eliminating wedding party - changed from traditional dancing to yard games , and just a celebration dinner for immediate family. With siblings - that comes to ~45 people

This means we will be sending " we have decided to change gears and have immediate family only" - much better worded of course. Does that make it clear it is a cancellation of the original event since most people didn't; know the venue yet anyway as I only had the city on the save dates? In retrospect I probably should have planned plan B for a different date to make sure everyone was aware it was a change - but I got very lucky and some vendors have been willing to accommodate me with switches.

View Quoted Comment Ok that sounds awesome. I would something like “due to Covid the event will not occur as planned”. The couple will be married in a private ceremony, and etc. I think you’re fine.

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Thank you - I the "event will not occur as planned" is perfect- thanks again! I am nervous over hurt feelings but realizing this is just a crazy time. The state I am in tends to be one with lots of changes and restrictions that vary by city so it is ever changing and overwhelming here is Massachusetts!

View Quoted Comment I know. It sucks for everyone. Have a great wedding!

Covid is a brave new world and people will understand. However, you might not need to do this because many people will make the decision for you. I invited 211 and had only 123 attend. Lots of people who RSVPed yes initially declined after citing Covid concerns.

Girly just blame it on COVID and say the venue has restrictions/we are thinking of everyone's safety.

View Quoted Comment Agree with this. Once a save the date is sent, it can not be revoked unless the wedding is canceled with notices sent to everyone and you start the guest list over from scratch.



Hopefully people understand that in the current climate, you taking everyone’s safety into consideration and will meet up with them at another time when you can. But that is worlds apart from doing whatever and blaming rude behavior on Covid as some people do when they don’t care about etiquette and other people’s feelings.