Change of wedding plans

If you haven't sent out save the dates or invitations out promised anyone that were invited and now not inviting them you should be okay.

I would be concerned about demoting your bridal party but if you tell them the reason and theyre still invited to the wedding they should be okay. Only you know your friends though and how they would react

We started off with a wedding, and I had already spoken to a number of people who I considered close friends wanting to gauge where they may be for the possible dates.

In the end we decided to do a wedding with only immediate family. I explained the situation to everyone I had spoken to and they all understood. If you didn't send any invitations or save the dates you should be fine. Just let everyone know soon so they aren't planning time off and what dress/attire they'll be wearing.

Did you keep your original wedding date that you had discussed with those guests? I'm so nervous about telling everyone because of how they may feel or react about it, but thank you!

Debbie

We decided no friends, just immediate family. Since we don't want any other friends saying something about another friend being invited...

Yeah, and I was nervous at first too but they all understood my choices. It made it better cause I said only immediate family and explained why. For us it was because my FH's dad passed away a year ago so we wanted to keep the DW as a mini-vacation for everyone. I had considered inviting close friends, but FH said let's not even do that cause not only does it open a can of worms, but we should keep it to just family and he was right. I am super happy with our choice and can't wait to see our family in 2 months!

It happens! One of my good friends ended up in a similar situation as you are. There will be hurt feelings but you need to do whats best for you in the end! People will understand and get over it in the end.

Aw, I'm so happy for you too! I'm sorry for your loss. I hope my friends and family are just as understanding as yours.

Thank you,

Debbie

That's what I keep reminding myself! Thank you!

Debbie

I think if you chose to have a smaller intimate wedding with just family and a few of your closest friends (ie those who would have been in your wedding party) that is totally fine. For us, I think the only people who would be offended if they weren't invited would be family (family always feel entitled for some reason) and my best friend - everyone else who is invited to my wedding would have been totally fine if we told them we were eloping or doing a small intimate ceremony instead. You can do just family if you want, but I would hope you would feel comfortable including your closest friends as well if that was important to you, and not just leave them out because you are worried other people will get upset. I would think if people were close enough to you for you to ask them to walk beside you on your wedding day, they'd probably be close enough to you that you would still want to celebrate with them, even at a much smaller event.