Change of plans

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I haven't been in your shoes, but if you do regret it one day, you can always host a celebration or vow renewal somewhere down the road when you're in a better head space.

I haven't changed them - but I'd suggest making the most of the courthouse wedding. Wear something that makes you feel beautiful and bridal - even if it's the big, elaborate dress you've bought already. I'd still try to go get wedding pictures with you and the groom with your photographer as well! Even in a park or somewhere local! Maybe in a few months you'll be in a better place and will be open to just having a reception to celebrate. Maybe in a year or so do a vow renewal.

Yes! You can always do something later. Some vendors may even let you have credit from your deposit to reschedule at another time. In a few months or even a year your family will probably be excited to celebrate a happy occasion with you!

Sorry for your loss. I lost my father at Xmas so I can really empathize. FH and I are being married alone and we plan to do an outdoor gathering maybe 2 or 3 months afterwards for everyone else. It's just too much stress having lost my Dad, all the other things on my plate AND planning an elaborate wedding. I don't know you or your preferences but courthouse/town hall weddings appeal to us because it is a moment that we both can share in private, without anxiety and what not. Neither of us wanted a big wedding so it's perfect. I think you both have the opportunity to really make the best of this, a moment to breathe easier and really focus on each other. There is nothing to say that you can't do something "big" later.

I am sorry for your loss! I think you should do what you feel best! Do not worry about what others think!! You can still have something great even if it is not what you originally thought of.