Change of plans..again..

So are you just concerned about the song you walk down the aisle to or the first look in the actual wedding dress? If it's the song, I promise you - if you use it in September and again in March, he's not going to remember. He's ONLY going to remember what you looked like walking down the aisle towards him.

If it's the dress, then that is a personal decision. What do you want?

You can certainly re-do the ceremony if that's what you the two of you want. There is no "etiquette" as it relates to us "covid" brides. We're just creating it as we go along.

I don't know the relationship with your moms so hard to answer that question, but I think you have to follow your heart. You can invite them as guests as courtesy as one-day you may regain a relationship and may wish they were there, but if that's never a possibility then you may want to exclude them.

I think if you're going to wear your actual wedding dress for the first time next year, then you'll probably want to do a full ceremony with it all. He'll still have that look of love, desire and hope as you walk down the aisle again.

If you're gonna wear that dress this year, then it can go either way next year.

I’m having our musician learn and play a specific song for FH as a surprise (he doesn’t know about it so shhhhh) and we’re doing the same. Minimony this Fall and a vow renewal/celebration in the Spring. I’m saving that song until May.

For our minimony we are going to drive over together so we will see each other beforehand, but that’s just us.

I’m wearing a new dress for the minimony and my original dress for May, and it’s going to be a mini ceremony keeping some traditions but it will be simple in some ways. We’re still having a florist, a musician (obviously), our officiant and a photographer. We’re just doing the ceremony with no reception/dinner afterwards as we don’t want to create an environment putting people at risk. That’s the whole reason we changed things in the first place.

IDK, with this you can really get creative or keep to tradition...it’s up to whatever you want to do.

Haha thank you

That sounds like it will be very nice! So nice of your friend to take photos for you and you can get really pretty flowers/arrangements/bouquets from stores. I’m sure it will come together really lovely! I can’t wait to see how it all turns out

We are having our minimony in October and big wedding next year, still planning to have a ceremony when everyone will be able to attend. I'm gonna wear my dress to both weddings, maybe do hair differently, and we haven't really decided if we will do the ceremonies exactly the same or do a vow renewal next year or what. Honestly, it never occurred to me to use a different processional song, though ours doesn't necessarily hold any outstanding sentimental value to us as a couple, it's just a really nice song that we both like. I think that even if you use the same song at both, he will still be stunned when he sees you and won't even hear the music

I'm sorry you're stressed!

Each ceremony will be very special and everything will work out great!