Change of date

Well, you can't control how others react to your change of plans, nor can you force them to be able to save money/take time off of work. I would just focus on moving forward with your planning and change the subject whenever someone starts in with a criticism.

View Quoted Comment I didn't say I was forcing anyone to do anything, just put that part in there cause I know some people will ask about the notice they were given

Even when there isn't a pandemic, people are wishy washy over attending. It's how some are. No matter how much notice you give them, if they don't want to attend then they will not put effort into letting you know. Alot of employers and schools don't grant time off until the very last minute. But those who want to be there will do what they can to make it happen. Ignore the others.

It’s always okay to change plans, but I do think 4-5 months is very limited notice if people are required to travel. You know your guests, but I know for us and most of our circle, 4 months wouldn’t be enough time to save money to attend a destination wedding.

Good for you! That's exciting. However I agree with Sarah, 4 months would not be enough time for my guests to get everything settled. Remember not to take it personal if people decline your invitation.

In reality, 4- 5 months really isn’t that much notice for a lot of people when it comes to having to save money for flights, hotel rooms, etc. Travel can get very expensive very quickly, and a lot of people live paycheck to paycheck, especially with so many people’s financial situations being affected by the pandemic. There is also the potential for issues getting time off work and/or school. This is why it is recommended to send out STDs a year in advance for destination weddings, or those that require extensive travel for guests. Most likely the backlash you are getting isn’t out of anger, but rather disappointment that people weren’t given enough advance notice to be able to attend. Don’t take it personally. Just have a blast with those who are able to attend!

No ma'am. We decided to elope instead.