Challenges

Oh man that sounds challenging considering if he wants to be involved means it takes time for him to get involved. I’m married now but my problem when I was planning was logistics. A lot of things I wanted to do were either logistically challenging or not really practical. My venue sometimes was being difficult

View Quoted Comment 1st, congratulations 🎉 but why was the venue being difficult? Did you end up finding a compromise that gave you the day you wanted?

Most challenging right now is not being able to book my vendors with my job loss due to covid. My fiancé is handling all the bills. Mines included.
Besides that we do have the venue booked and I️ guess the other challenging part is figuring out our colors because I️ love All the colors in the rainbow so I️m thinking of doing all the colors. Lmao.

View Quoted Comment I'm so sorry you've been financially impacted by Covid-19. The emotional stress is bad enough, that added layer just compounds it 😔


A rainbow wedding sounds very fun!! I'm sure that will be gorgeous.
Good luck to you and your fiance.

I found it easier to give him 2 or 3 choices - sort of my top preferences - and then he has input and it moves it along.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Also with wedding planning I️ created A google doc that my fiancé could look at and add things too. It could help since he’s not home as often.

That’s tough! It would drive me absolutely crazy if my FH wanted to be involved in every detail. I do all the planning, ideas and background work. However, I still do present the narrowed down options to FH to get his opinion. That way he’s still involved in the final decisions. I prefer it that way and so does he.


We’re all booked and were done with planning in January (that part is easy). So the only “challenge” is COVID-19 because it’s out of our control. Although our date is in October, I’m not sure how life will be by then. But I’m hoping we can follow through with our original plans and not have go with one of our backup plans.

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Leslie I did this too - sent pictures and let him pick from there. I have tried to keep his taste and dream in line - but somethings I have told him are complete surprises. I also gave him the option for completely booking the party bus/ transportation to the wedding and he will be the lead on cake tasting and catering tasting. He is also looking into officiants for us as a joined effort.

My fiancé wants to be involved but anytime I ask him for help and his opinion, his response is I don't know. It has been very frustrating with trying to plan things and he doesn't quite understand why I get upset and frustrated with the planning.

Choosing the right dress lol, but I have that squared away finally.

View Quoted Comment Oh, no! Time to have a discussion? You don't deserve to be frustrated and I'm sure he doesn't want to be the cause of it!! Some of the other responses have been giving choices or making their partner responsible for a few specific things...I may go that route to keep the stress low. Don't stay frustrated, hun. Just speak your mind and maybe offer a smaller range of choices so he can have helpful input? Good luck!!

View Quoted Comment 🎉🎉 congratulations! I am someone who truly hates shopping for clothes of any kind, so I found one I liked and had my measurements sent. I didn't try it on in a store or anything first 😳 but I have an amazing seamstress who is going to help with making it fit my body right. I'm dreading getting him fitted for his tux...maybe not as much him as his groomsmen 😆 they all think their jokes are sooooo funny, but they end up driving me nuts (one of them is my brother).😃

View Quoted Comment Oh I have tried. I can’t even get him to pick out his wedding party. I’ll try what you suggested though. Maybe it will help.

Im In The Same Boat As You, My FH Has Been On Deployment Since October . He Should Be home Soon But I've been Trying To keep Him In The Loop Via Email. Sending Him Pics Of Ideas And Things. Luckily He Hasn't Been Very Picky.

View Quoted Comment Oh wow! I'm grateful to him, and you, for his service! Mine was a naval corpsman 🙂


I think I'm going to do the narrow it down to a few things and let him pick from them. He did find our cake design on his own and I love it, so at least i know he has good taste in that sort of thing 😂

View Quoted Comment Lol I completely sympathize, I dread shopping for clothes too and am just indecisive in general so the whole process was just complicated due to my nature.
First I ordered a dress and the next day felt regretful so I called in and cancelled the order. Luckily I got my full refund.
Second dress I ordered online and I liked it a good bit but didn’t quite love it, you know? Then a dress that I loved that was previously just above my budget went on sale and I got additional discounts reducing it significantly so I went for it. Now I have 2 dresses and am trying to sell the one I liked lol 🤷‍♀️

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I Think I Will Do The Same And Hope He Likes Some Of My Ideas Lmao . So Far So Good Tho. Good Luck!

Mine has been literally getting my bridal party together and on board about anything! My MOH tried to organize an amazing (my original) bachelorette but only 4 of us (out of like 12) had interest and that was awful. We recently postponed our wedding from June to December so my MOH has decided to try again with the bachelorette party the first week of November since we had so little interest before and the original one was cancelled due to Covid. Y'all...even moving every vendor and changing pretty much every detail due to changing wedding seasons (spring/summer to winter) has been easier than trying to get my bridal party on one page about fun events.

As of right now, I'd say the venue is the most challenging part. We've had our venue chosen since before the world went on shutdown and our Event Manager just has slacked on writing the contract. It was already a challenge because we chose our venue "online" as this is a destination wedding. We told her we were taking an extended weekend and visited the property and if she had a few minutes we'd like to meet her in person (added we'd sign the contract if we hadn't done so before this date - even told her our choice was made, this was just for our own benefit). So, we went to the property and no contract to sign, etc. Fast forward 2 weeks and the world shuts down and she tells us she'll keep the space on complimentary hold until they reopen. All the while just saying over and over again that we were prepared to pay in full to lock in our date.

Hence... the most challenging.

I understand your challenges with FH being a semi-driver. My FH works 4-12's and we only have weekends together so decision making usually happens on one of our weekend days.