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July 2020

Ceremony.....

Jill, on June 30, 2019 at 3:26 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 8
Hi all!My daughter and future son in law are getting married in the Fall. My husband and I are paying for most of the wedding. Grandparents are chipping in, future in laws are chipping in and maybe the my daughter and fiance might give something towards their wedding.

I have a question about invites and the ceremony. Is it in poor taste to invite only immediate family and very close friends to the ceremony? And invite everyone else to the reception.

We are trying to do a simple, small backyard ceremony- as of current, the guest list is over 75ppl. We can't fit that many people in our backyard, so we were contemplating the above scenario. Both families are extending invitations to co workers, family friends, some business associates etc... People that are important to the respective families, but not close to the bride and groom. And these would be people that would be expected to be invited, out of respect for the families.
I have been talking to some people who recently had children that just married and a few held a small intimate ceremony at home or at the courthouse and threw a big party later that day. So, I was wondering if that is something we should consider doing to save money, make the whole experience more meaningful.
What do you all think about this?



8 Comments

Latest activity by Jolie, on July 2, 2019 at 1:01 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    It's fine to have a truly intimate ceremony with immediate family only. Intimate family as in parents, siblings, and grandparents. It's not fine to invite extended family and friends and exclude everyone else.

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  • J
    July 2020
    Jill ·
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    A small wedding party would be ok also?
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    A small wedding party for a small intimate ceremony sound fine
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    If truly just immediate family (and a small wedding party is ok) then this is fine. 👍
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    Yes it’s ok. My son just got married and that’s what they did. They had 16 people at the actually ceremony because they got married on a dock on the water (so it didn’t hold many people and his wife is super shy). They then invited another 75 or so people to the reception afterward and it was perfect.
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  • J
    July 2020
    Jill ·
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    Thank you! I was hoping someone else had experience with this!
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  • L
    Lady ·
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    Technically (etiquette-wise) an immediate family ceremony is fine. However, I personally think it's rude to invite a bunch people to celebrate a wedding they are not invited to witness. If they're important enough to celebrate with (and likely bring a gift!) why would you exclude them from the part of the day they're invited to celebrate?

    I would not attend a wedding like this personally.

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  • J
    Master October 2019
    Jolie ·
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    Immediate family and small wedding party is more than fine! Many people do this. Hell I think it's nice you are having a reception. My cousin got married in my aunt's home and we weren't invited and they never had a reception so it was just an awkward "congrats you did a thing" scenario... haha. My mom was peeved about it, but what can ya do.

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