Lindsay
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Ceremony start time

Lindsay, on August 20, 2019 at 11:58 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 28
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How late did your ceremony start in comparison to the start time put on the invites. We have 3:30 as our start time but I’m not planning to get there until 3:35 to make sure everyone is seated and no one sees us lining up

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Latest activity by Kristen, on August 25, 2019 at 10:25 AM
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I think 5-10 minutes is fine, but any later I'd be annoyed (unless it was something the bride & groom couldn't control).

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    10 minutes after invite time is when we started
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Agree with this. Don't intentionally keep your guests waiting.

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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
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    I agree with PP, a 5 minute buffer isn’t a bad idea but it’s rude to intentionally make your guests wait 15 minutes because you think someone might be late.
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  • Laura
    VIP November 2019
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    I only plan to wait about five minutes. We have a tight schedule for the reception, I don’t want to miss anything because people can’t show up on time.
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  • Justine
    Dedicated August 2019
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    I have mine at 30 minutes in advance. I thought it was really rude at first but everyone single wedding processional I have talked to says that 30 minutes is the perfect amount of time. Having said that, if I could turn back and redo my invitations, I might have disregarded that and put 15 minutes at the most because I still think it's a bit much.
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  • Amy
    Devoted October 2019
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    Our venue recommended 30 minutes which I thought was a little extensive but when I went to my cousin’s in December, problems started happening and me and my family were about 10 minutes late. They ended up started 30 minutes after their start time.
    We put 5:00pm on our invites, but only our bridal party and parents will know that we’re starting at 5:30
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  • Autumn
    Savvy December 2021
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    I would suggest around 10 minutes. Enough time where you arent seen lining up but doesnt keep people waiting

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  • Iva
    Super September 2019
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    This depends on area you live & your people. Every wedding I’ve been to started after the time listed on invite, anywhere between 10 to 30min later. Guests usually arrive at the time listed on invite & by the time they they check in, get seated, have a pre-ceremony drink or water (if drink is not served), the processional music usually starts 20-30min after. So I would make schedule according to what your guests are used to / is common in your area. I definitely do not want guests arriving after I walked down the aisle, so we are starting after the time listed on our invite.
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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
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    Our invite time was for the time we intended to start.

    I agree with the PP that said a 5-10 min delay is fine, but I wouldn’t intentionally set the time
    much earlier. People know invite time means start time, so most people will start arriving much earlier, so intentionally delaying by a half hour will mean you have some people waiting around for a whole hour by the time you get started which is a bit of a drag— and that’s if everything goes smoothly. Delays may come up, so I always find it best to plan for punctual, deal with delay. If you plan for a later start, then have a natural delay, you could end up with double delay (which leads to cranky guests. And in my experience, cranky guests suck the fun out of weddings!)
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  • Justine
    Dedicated August 2019
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    I would dislike that too! 😂 how would they get to their seat from behind you if you're in the middle of your walk. That would be terrible
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  • Melissa
    VIP October 2018
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    We said 3:30 and we meant it lol. I think we had said something like "promptly at 3:30" and mentioned the venue doors opening at 2:30. If they were late, they were late. They missed out.

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  • Iva
    Super September 2019
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    Yes it would be terrible & I’ve seen it happen several times. The most awkward being at a ceremony in a church, where when people came late church door made a loud, creaking sound, so everyone turned back to see what’s happening 🤦🏻‍♀️ So yes, we’re starting after our listed time lol 😆
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  • Lindsay
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Same! Our ceremony is in a very small and old church with a giant creaky door haha.
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  • Iva
    Super September 2019
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    Haha... yes, then if I was you, I would definitely arrive at least 10min after 🙂
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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
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    No more than 10 mins. Last summer we went to a wedding where the bride and her group were an hour and 45 mins late. All the guests were standing outside in the heat and sun waiting for the ceremony to start. I can't stand people who are late to begin with. I'm super anal about people being on time no matter what.

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  • Brooke
    Expert November 2019
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    My guest will be arriving around 4:30-5:00. Ceremony start time is 5:30, and I will be there around 5:00

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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
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    We'll be at the venue hours before since we're doing photos and a first look there, then hiding away before guests start arriving. I'd personally be incredibly peeved as a guest if things started any more than 15 minutes late, and honestly, I'd still be annoyed even then. Maybe it's a regional thing, but every wedding I've been to has had the listed time being the time the ceremony is expected to start. If you're less than ten minutes early, you're late. The first wedding I went to without my parents I showed up 15 minutes early, and I'd guess 90% of the guests were already seated inside. I think showing up 5 minutes late is fine, and if you're worried about people seeing you, you can always hide out in the car for a little longer.

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    Our start time is listed as 2:30 pm, but I'll probably end up being five minutes late knowing me

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  • Rene
    Beginner May 2019
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    Our invite time was the start time. We did end up waiting 5-10 min on the day of though because a lot of guests were late, and we wanted as many of the guests to be present as possible.

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